I might be in a abusive relationship..but im in love.. Help!?

obviously your dating a loser

You are in an abusive relationship. You Gustave loved a stranger. You're only seeing his true co lours now. Leave when when there's still time.

From your typing, you don't seem to be very old. Email me if you want someone to discreetly talk to : edsonchristina at yahoo.com

You should RUN. As far and as FAST as you can from this guy. Things won't get better, they will only get worse.......Someday he's likely to kill you, or your children if you ever have any. They always say they are sorry....most cry.....but then they do it again and after awhile you will start to believe you deserve it and its your fault he needs to hit you.

He isn't putting you first.......if he was and if he truly cared about you, he wouldn't ever touch you like that, no matter how angry he was. You ARE in an abusive relationship and unless you want to end up physically scarred for life or dead, get out now.

You love him, that's true. But do you really think being in such a relationship is good for your well-being? Yes, a year and 8 months is long and I understand that you don't want to break up. But your boyfriend shows the classic behavior, it could even be that he has some kind of personality disorder, but I'm not good in that department so I can't tell for sure. Either way, even if he says he's sorry, that doesn't mean he won't do it again. And he'll only go farther and farther... so it might be the best to simply break up, even if that's a hard decision for you, it's the best.

Are you serious? Do you have parents? Did they not teach you anything. Any dumb girl who says a boy is "her entire world" means parents failed building self esteem in their ignorant and weak daughter.... So you chose to fall in love with a boy who is abusive....that explains your family......


With all that physical abuse and terror, you still say he is your world, you wanna be with him forever....you are way too much of a mess to take advice, you just aren't mature at all, I'm sad for you.......you need professional help and I think you are a MORON for not walking out on him.

I'd love to talk to him personally and see how he feels when he hits a chick....Fokker, I'd put him in a wheelchair if I was your brother....so you don't even have any good strong protective brothers? Jesus, I'm, outta here, this disgusts me.....you weakling..

You don't want to break up with him but your more than willing to break your arm? Do you hear how ridiculous that sounds? Take it from someone who's been in your shoes. Things WILL get worse. It starts with the little things. Slapping, pushing, minor hitting.......things like that. But then every time he breaks down and cries and then apologizes and you forgive him, your giving him permission to do it again. And he will. Does that sound healthy to you? Is your personal well being worth what he's doing to you? How long do you think it's going to take before he starts throwing things at you? How long will it take before he pushes you down a flight of stairs? How long before he starts doing all of these things in a public setting? AND HOW LONG DO YOU INTEND TO JUSTIFY IT FOR HIM LIKE IT'S OK JUST BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM?????? You may love him, but what he's doing to you is NOT love. It's anger and hate. Leave him. As hard as it seems to be, LEAVE HIM and get out before you end up in the hospital.......or worse. I've seen it happen. I know it can happen and I know how it starts. I'm a LGBT therapist and it's my job to work with people in your situation every day. I can't count the number of times that I've had people come into my office with bruises and bloody and battered. And all they have to say is "I love him"? Great, love him all you want, but love him from a distance. Then you'll learn to move on. If you allow yourself to stay in this situation, then when the time comes that you get seriously hurt, you can only blame yourself. Your allowing him to continue to do this to you because you aren't putting your foot down. He needs help. He needs to talk to someone about his anger issues. And more importantly, YOU need to talk to someone about how what he's doing to you is starting to affect the way you think. This is not OK on any level.......For your own sake, put an end to it. There are people out there all over (like me) who you can talk to about these situations. I hope that you reach out to someone and do something about it.

No matter what anyone says or how much you love him and he says he is sorry. It will just get worse and it wont stop. I know from experience. It seems as if you may be young and trust me, get out while you can and your still young. You will move on, it will get easier and you will get over it. There is never a time where hitting your significant other is OK no matter what the other person did to you. Mental abuse usually comes with physical abuse and the longer you stay the harder it will be to get out of this destructive relationship. I know this is not what you want to hear but you asked for an opinion and I am giving one from experience. I went through an abusive relationship for over 3 years, so trust me and I hope you take my advice. I wont promise that it wont be hard but I do promise that somewhere down the road you will be thankful that you did and ask yourself why you stayed so long in the first place. It's not that you don't want to waste a yr and 8 months you should be saying I don't want to waste more than a yr and 8 months on someone that is abusive. Don't give in to his Im Dorry's and tears and I will never do it Agni's, as much as he means it in that moment he WILL do it again. Get help too from your mom or a counselor to help you go through this so you can get away and never look back.

Darling i feel sorry for you, and i understand what you mean by loving him and can't let him go even though he hits you, BUT YOU HAVE TO.. love is not violence sooner or later he will leave a mark you will never forget i never been in a situation like yours my best friend has...and she is gone DEAD murdered by the guy would she be gone if she hadn't tolerated the physical abuse? no she used to tell me everything it started as a slap, then progresses to more and more until he does the ultimate damage death... i had to answer this cos it still makes me sad when i think about my best friend and i don't like any woman to ever go Thur this again you are daughter, sister put yourself first not him he abuses you wake up assert yourself love yourself and do the right thing leave seek counsel ling leave him and surround yourself with people who really love you. good luck.x

There's no "might" to it, if he is putting his hands on you (i.e. slapping, pushing, bruising, verbal put downs, etc) IT IS ABUSE. It doesn't matter that he's not beating you to the brink of unconsciousness or that he cries about it afterward. You don't want to waste a year and 8 months but what is that compared to 20 years of "occasional fighting" or just one broken arm? Stop downplaying the situation and stop fooling yourself. You have two choices. One, stay with the guy and put up with all the BS because it will continue and progressively get worse, or two, do right by yourself, dump the loser, and find someone better. You are truly over exaggerating the "love" he has for you because if he truly loved you he'd never raise his hands to you.

You're living in denial and you can use some counsel because you don't understand love mean you're allowing your emotions to control your life and emotions is only feeling when you should be using your intelligence because love doesn't hurt? love kind and caring for one another.

As far as you don't want to lose the one year and 8 months the choice is lose one year and 8 months and/or lose your life trying to hold on to nothing abuse start small and end up large now is the time to step out on faith and for some one who true love you unconditional.

do what char gonna do, but don't regret your decision later, take time to think about it