Advice about love life with my wife?

raynpapy · #1 (**permalink**) 08-12-2010, 06:00 PM

I have been married for just over 7 years now and my wife and my sexual relationship has been getting more and more boring all the time. I love her more than ever and want to be with her but want to spice things up sometimes. My thing is since we have gotten married my wife never tries to seduce me. She never wears any sexy lingerie for me and never really seems to care about us making love. She is a full size woman and sometimes I think that has something to do with it and I have talk to her about it and it doesn't seem to go anywhere. I have a thing for stockings and sexy lingerie and it gets to me that she is not interested at all. What if anything can I do to change this?

luvthaigirl · #2 (**permalink**) 08-16-2010, 06:00 PM

buy some for her -

misz.lala · #3 (**permalink**) 08-21-2010, 06:00 PM

make her feel beautiful
in an adoring romantic way, not sexual

romance her all over again
"date" her if you will
spend time making her feel special
and when she regains her confidence, buy her some lingerie
you said she is a larger lady, MAKE SURE its her size, or a little bit bigger
and buy her a sheer robe for over the top of it

light the bedroom with a few candles (not too many)
in candle light she will feel more comfortable
take time
enjoy & make her feel relaxed

SassySister · #4 (**permalink**) 08-24-2010, 06:00 PM

if she doesn't like to wear that buying it for her may not work. my relationship is the same way.

my current plan is to just try to get us spending more time together. to get her back to having a sparkle in her eye when we are together. if she can laugh and start to forget the stress, maybe she will want to desire me again.

earlier today i asked the question why women don't' like to wear lingerie and a the answer was that it is uncomfortable. so until you get to the point where she is asking what you want, it will be hard to get her to enjoy wearing it.

good luck.

Ira D · #5 (**permalink**) 08-26-2010, 06:00 PM

Get her some things you really like & on a boring TV evening, bring them out & ask her to model them for you. That should help, I hope...

kyleryantoth · #6 (**permalink**) 08-31-2010, 06:00 PM

It took me a long time to learn this, but it usually works if you just slow down. Take time to let her talk about her day, tell you how she's doing. Listen well and show her you care about her more than just physically. Demonstrate your love by buying her something that SHE likes, even if it does nothing for you, such as a nice cozy robe and slippers. Change the sheets on the bed before she gets home--new sheets are even better! Light some candles. Make dinner, even if you're a lousy cook. She'll appreciate that she doesn't have to do it. Tell her to go relax in the tub, then straighten the house (some women can't relax in bed if the house is a mess--my wife is that way!) Turn off the TV in the bedroom. Read an erotic (but maybe not pornographic) book together in bed. Have fun.

Good luck!