Does it seem like he really loves me like he claims? can someone give me any advice?
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Does it seem like he really loves me like he claims? can someone give me any advice?
I started dating him six and a half months ago, and at first it was just me who cared about him, he later told me that he was just in the relationship for his own benefit. He said he was considering breaking up with me at first, but then he fell for me (according to him). His parents are absurd and have caused a lot of issues for us but it's always worked out in the end. He does change his mind about things a lot, but the one thing he's stuck with is that he loves me. He told me he would do literally anything for me, he couldn't stand to see me hurt, and if something ever happened to me he would never forgive himself for not being there to save me, and that I'm the reason he exists because I helped him out when no one else would. A few months back he was considering ending his life but he told me I was the one who helped him about of that. He tells me that he thinks I'm the most beautiful girl on the planet, that I'm amazing and he's never met anyone like me, and never felt this way about anyone else. But I have trust and rejection issues, and I always have a hard time believing all this. So do you think he loves me or he is lying?
He's changed and doesn't want to end his life anymore. We were friends for years before this, and that's when he was having trouble...we weren't even dating yet. That part is all over now.
I'm not saying he does not love you only he knows if he loves you but what i am saying is he seems unstable and you cant have a stable relationship with someone who is unstable. if he is talking about ending his life then he is not happy and he needs to make himself happy before anyone else can make him happy and before you can truly make him happy. i feel this is an unhealthy relationship. but only you know where you want to go from here.
Honey if a guy tells you he wants to end his life he needs more than a girlfriend...he needs counseling. Stay single...for a while anyway. Work on your own trust and rejection issues and then you will attract a healthy mate. Good luck.
Your angularity has nothing to do with your trust and rejection issues. It is obvious that he does not love himself so how can he really love you? That is why you do not believe it. Actions speak louder than words- he can tell you all day long that he loves you and then he tries to take his life- then he says you are the reason he didn't. I would say that he has more issues than you do and you should find someone that you do not have to fix. I hate to be brash about it, but I would not respond very well to my boyfriend acting like that. Sounds like he is desperate for attention. He was not going to kill himself... he just wanted to get some attention. If he was going to kill himself and if he was serious then he should have been sent to the hospital for observation for mental illness. I would run...
Does he look sketchy when he says I love you, or does he look serious? If he looks sketchy it could still just be for the time being, but if he says it with a straight face and really looks into your eyes its something I think you can trust. From the sound of it all, hes like most guys where he says things like "Your the most beautiful perfect amazing girl in the entire world and no one else is ever gonna change that!" Well that's common and though everyone does it, do you believe him, you dint have to believe that for him to love you, just some people cannot express love, love is different to different people, just like I think being in love and loving someone are different things, you may love you cat, dog, family but your not in love with them, love means to me when you couldn't bare to lose them, it would shake your heart but you could get over it, where as being in love to me is when if you were gone that he could love no more, of course he could but he would drop to the ground and could become suicidal, his mind wouldn't be straight and if he ever caught you with someone else he would die deeply inside, this is my opinion. I think from the sound of it, hes very honest, though after 6 months you cant know for sure, he sounds like a honest person that I think truly has deep feelings for you, and even if its not love, he truly adores you alto. Hope I helped, Good luck.
Jessy, it's hard to know for sure right now his true feelings. I think it would be best to give it some more time and see how things turn out,
Words come pretty easily but actions really tell the story, How has he been treating you? When around other people does he pay attention to you and treat you as the most important person in his life? Is he courteous to you, opens doors, etc? If so you may be on to a good guy.
But don't rush anything. Six and an half months is not that long. See how the next few months go and then you will have a good idea.
You sound like a wonderful person and this guy is lucky to have found you. But lets make sure he is the right one for you as well. Good luck and best wishes.
I also love my ff, i also tell her my feeling for her. But she also never belief it. I also want her to belief me. So trust him once. He will feel nice if he love you. Like i would feeling if my ff trust me.
This is quite difficult. On one hand anyone who enters a relationship only 'for their own benefit' is most certainly questionable when it comes to their own character, namely their morals and outlook on life and perhaps even their own history. Then on the other hand it seems like.. going by the things he's saying to you, has fallen for you. It's one of those situations where only you can tell how genuine he is by what you saw in his eyes, the way he spoke the words and the atmosphere of when he tells you these things.
If your gut instinct is saying something is wrong, i wouldn't totally deny what your feelings are telling you. But, if he's living his life as a proper, respectable boyfriend. Not flirting with others and is there for you and importantly he makes you feel happy and makes you enjoy your own life, just as it appears you make his life happy and worth living.. then he may very well of found someone he sees as very special and that he does truly want to be with you and not ever hurt you.
Everything in life, especially relationships.. is always a big risk to our own well-being. We risk being hurt in the hope we'd feel amazingly in love with that special someone. If he feels like he is worth that risk, then love like you've never loved before.
Does it seem like he really loves me like he claims? can someone give me any advice?
