I think I love him and he loves me? but I'm not sure if he loves me :( boys and girls please help :)?

slickmommadani · #1 (**permalink**) 06-14-2010, 06:34 PM

well I was listening to music this afternoon and I was pretending that I was singing along for him but i don't sing in front of people. anyway well I just lost myself in the song and I was singing and pretending I was looking in his eyes and yeah I just suddenly felt all tingly, and weird but I used to love him and I think I love him again but I get jealous when he gets a girlfriend and at school we always sit next to each other but I try to avoid looking into his eyes too often so I can actually hear what he is saying. and yeah anyways I think he likes me too cause he always winks on Facebook and smiley faces and other faces and X's after some of the things he says. does he like me? do I love him? and should I ask him out? or would it ruin our friendship? please help me , if this has ever happened to u then u would know what it feels like

please help me

davie · #2 (**permalink**) 06-15-2010, 06:34 PM

HE DOESNT LOVE YOU!!!! GET OVER HIM!!! BTW ?HAT TINGLY FEELING IS JUST PEE RUNNING THROUGH YOUR SYSTEMS. YOU SHOULD BE JEALOUS CUZ HE IS MARRIED TO A BLUE EYED BLONDE WHO IS SLIM AS CAN BE. YOU SHOULDNT AVOID HIS EYES BUT HE WILL AVOID YOURS THOSE PITS OF DEATH.... hope this helps Hanny <3

lalala · #3 (**permalink**) 06-18-2010, 06:34 PM

He might, or he could just flirt. Maybe flirt back too all little or play hard to get.

mimma · #4 (**permalink**) 06-21-2010, 06:34 PM

You dint sound sure that you love him at all.............. he likes you because he winks at you but I bet he winks at other girls on face book too.. guys just do that wonky thing.. when they like girls but they dint do it only to the one girl....

))))

John F · #5 (**permalink**) 06-26-2010, 06:34 PM

I'll be honest....i can't tell you. no one can but him. Take it from someone who wasted years waiting and regretted every second of it. Ask him, talk about it with him. let him know that you like him and you want to be with him. Just don't make the same mistake as me.

Rachel - Pit Police -TKT · #6 (**permalink**) 06-30-2010, 06:34 PM

yeah i know what it feels like. you have a deep imagination. and your imagination of him gave you tingles. and ID how well you know him. it really depends on how well you know him. do you "love" him as a person? like do you look deep into his unique personality? or is he just a pretty face to put into your imagination? that tingly feeling was love i guess, but maybe not your love for him, maybe the feeling is simply your desire for love itself, with anyone. but then again it depends on how well you know him.

with these things there's no telling. but a feeling is a feeling, and should not go unexpressed. just go for it.

Oliver M · #7 (**permalink**) 07-03-2010, 06:34 PM

it sounds like he likes you if hes still talking to u and winking at u
i think u should tell him how u feel and if we turns u down then look at it this way
at least u didn't waste more time off your short life on someone who just wants to play games and dint want u

kcky1771 · #8 (**permalink**) 07-07-2010, 06:34 PM

OH yea, that is the epitome of a can of worms there. Worst confusion I've ever ran across is that little scenario you have there. The warm tingle I don't know. I've felt it but only one person so far in.. 20 odd years. Does it mean you love them, I don't know. I can say just by asking if you do or don't you are on the road to saying that you do. As for asking him out, in the end that is truly up to you the greatest relationships I've had were ones started with friends. It is a rough ending if it ends. But hey, that just means it was a good relationship, the higher you climb the further you risk falling.

As for Facebook smiley faces, X's n such... I wouldn't read too much into that at all. It could be flirty for flirting sake. He may not think its anything at all. You say you avoid his eyes whee you converse... Does he do the same? If so.. He likes you If you're bashful around him does he give a superior smirk? If so.. he probably knows you like him.

Here is one bit of advice I gave a friend of mine. A friend wanted to date another friend. (Hale, we'll call H. and Lia, we'll call L). H wanted to date L. L didn't have any interest, pure neutrality. The advice I gave her was simply "Do you have fun when he's around?" Yes. "Can you talk about anything/nothing" Yes. "Are you disgusted or full of hatred towards him?" No. So simply... Why not do a trial run.

They did, it was a tricky situation, they are getting now engaged.

Trial Run: Fairly elaborate, a third-party would feel more fair to both ends.. think of it as a business contract. It's all about slowly inserting "Relationship" activities and things. With a simple "good morning/Goodnight" text or sitting next to each other. Casual things that can easily become habit. (i.e. a little extra then a little more) Only catch is no hand-holding, kissing, sex etc etc primarily for the fact that things will speed up or skew away from what it should be (depending which activity you're talking about)

So, my summation is. Friends make the best relationships. You'll never know what you have until your try for it and... if he can sit down and agree to trying it out awesome (that's the hardest part, getting the Cajuns to ask) Or hell, hold his arm here and there, give him more hugs and cling a little longer during a hug. he'll get to the point of expecting it and THEN he'll actually sit down and wonder..

OR, do it like a band aid.... walk up and ask him out. Wam-Bam.