can married men fall in love with their mistress???? I'm in love with a married man help me please??

His kids will always be his excuse for not leaving. Leave now before you dig yourself a deeper hole.

You are only being used. What you are doing is settling for second.

"he got kicked out for a few nights" means he went back to her... like he always will.

He did not cut you off because he enjoys the sex and wants it to continue. Don't be delusional, find a good man, not a cheater.

you're barking up the wrong tree. He's committing adultery with you and you think that there won't be any consequences with that? There is in God's eyes for the big one but worse is when and if he leaves her for you and then once married to you is unfaithful behind your back... and that WILL not might happen. When a man or woman is unfaithful its the seed of unfaithfulness in them and it doesn't matter who it is that they are unfaithful too due to the seed of the sin. Come clean and ditch him and stay clean by finding your own mate that will stay faithful to you.

He will never leave his wife. Ever.

Stop seeing him.

Call his wife and get her to kick him out. This way, he HAS to come live with you.

Lil wow you are really confused. no that doesn't mean that really loves you, it just means that he doesn't want to stop getting what hes getting from you. which is sex. also your right and so he he, he is not going to leave her and its not cause of the timing or the kids, he is just simply not going to leave her.

Unless you are willing to wait until the kids are 30, 40 or 50.. he will never leave, it is an excuse. If he is willing to lie to his wife, he will lie to you. GET OUT NOW.

there must be a book somewhere titled 'screwing married guys for dummies', and one whole chapter is devoted to your problem. Of course they fall in love. But leave the little woman for the freebie wank they can get from the likes of you? I'm telling you, from a man's perspective, if one of you is willing to give it up for his pleasure, then in his mind, the number of potential successors to you is infinite.

you aren't confused, just very uninformed about how men behave.

just go up to his kids and tell them your breaking up the family. After they know he will clearly love you enough to leave them

to him your just an easy piece of dirt !!!..he wont leave his wife..and you ring her an make hints but u ha vent got the guts to come clean??..your a coward an he is to..you are a home wrecker an its nothing to b proud of .you might as well advertise yourself as the local ho!!!..when she finds out she will give you what you well deserve..and him to..he will probably be sleeping with another parasite ..so go back to the slums where u belong an leave mar rid men alone

Well, he could, but it happens very very rarely. It sounds like you are dreaming of something that can never be. It also seems like you are violating the rules of the relationship. You know he is married, and you love him as a married man. If her were single, the entire rules of the game would change, and most likely he would take out his anger and frustration on your relationship. In an odd sort of a way, I disagree with what others have said, I think you are using him (to fulfill your personal fantasies) ... stop this destructive relationship. It will only hurt everyone involved.

Excuses they use the kids If he is not divorced then move on it will only be disaster for you he wants his cake and eat it too!

Alright think of it like this, if this guy does divorces you and marries you and claims to be in love with you, how will you know he doesn't cheat on you on another women, because he did it before, he will do it again, he just using you, if he really did love you, then I think he would have divorced his wife already. He afraid of what society will think of him, and that shows his self centering's, He been lying to his wife, how do you know if he is lying to you, I mean his wife believes him, just like you, he lying to everyone in order to get what he wants, which is power and control, but its up to you, your choice if you want this, not ours

Well, seems as though you have tried to speed up your married boy friend, to leave his wife and it failed. No, it isn't love. If it were once the wife knew, that would have been it. But instead he's still with the woman he loves, his wife. Married men, basically, never leave their wives for a "piece on the side:, as they say. What's he going to tell you? That he's having a great time at home and you are making his dull life a bit more exciting? You should do a test leaving him alone for a week or more.
Tell him, if he truly loved you, he would have moved out and filed for divorce. Makes sense to me!

Love shouldn't hurt.

There's your answer.

You already know he's capable of lying. I hope his wife never takes him back and sues him for every penny he is worth.

Oh and what cheating man do you know that says his wife is nice, they have sex still, and she's amazing? NONE OF THEM. They all say the wife is a horrible evil woman who is trying to destroy them yet...for some reason...they are still with her.

It's been 7 months, love. If he wanted to be with you, he would. And he most likely only forgave you as you said cause his wife wasn't putting up with his BS. Why are you calling his wife out? Shouldn't you take your anger out on him? After all he's the one lying to you about wanting to be with you yet he hasn't left her. I feel for the wife in this situation. I don't know how old you are but you should know better. Always judge a person by their actions and not their words. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and only you. It's no t this guy. If he can cheat on her with you, then he can do it to you too. Get some self-respect and tell this jerk to piss off.

Listen to Swizzle...he is a man and he knows.

Wow, the nerve of some people. It has been pr oven so many times that the married man hardly ever leaves the wife. Just because he forgave you does not mean it is "love". He just does not want to go looking for someone else to scrimp with. You think it hurts to love him? What about how hurt the kids will be if he was to leave their mommy? Or how hurt the wife would be to find her husband is sleeping with a filthy s*ankh? The fact that you have started to give her hints is very sick. You want to know what will happen? You think that once she finds out from your "hints" that he will just leave or she will kick him out for good, doubtful. He will beg for her forgiveness, she will eventually forgive him and because he still loves his wife you will be kicked to the curb before you can blink. OR the other outcome would be she finds out, he ends things with you to prove to her he does not want to be with you and she wont take any of it then she will take him for everything he has, and then will come after you for ruining the marriage. Legally she CAN take you to court for that. Just wait, there is never a good ending to these situations. I would say good luck to you but I do not believe woman like you deserve any sympathy.

To answer your subject question...men or women might fall in love with anyone...there is no limit to how many people we can love at one time...

You said "he claims he's not happy"...yeah Hun, almost all cheaters claim that (lest the people they want to cheat with might not feel sorry for them and give them what they want)...If he said he was happy in his marriage and life was great, but he just wanted someone different to screw, would you have laid down for him so easily???

...and no, there is no standard to what any lowlife cheating trash might or might not do...don't delude yourself (if your post is even true) that some behavior of his proves he loves you...

Help??? Stop screwing around with married men...get some pride, morals, and self respect and stick to single guys...

No charge for the advice... ?