Question about the connection between LOVE and VISION/DREAMS?

Independent_guy · #1 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 05:49 PM

People can fall in love before knowing each other's dreams, life goals and vision. Do you think a relationhsip/marriage can last a long time even when people in love have completely different dreams/vision? (for example the woman is simple but materialistic - wants 3 kids and a big house, the guy wants one child and has a goal to work when he wants to work - become independent by generating passive income through investments, and does not care at all about big house, fancy car etc.) THANKS.

Amoreena · #2 (**permalink**) 12-31-2008, 01:24 AM

I think it can last IF both people truly are commited to making it work. Marriage can be difficult under the best circumstances, so to start out with strikes against it is doubly hard. I say before the relationship goes that far, work all these issues out. Having children is a big decision. You both have to want the same thing as far as kids go, especially. If you don't work out these issues, you each will grow to resent each other. Marriage is a two way street, with plenty of give and take by both of you. I say seriously talk all the issues over and resolve them before getting married.

Patti Wray · #3 (**permalink**) 01-08-2009, 12:36 PM

Yes it depend on how strong their love is. If she really love him she wouldn't put the big house and large family expenses all on him. They would help each other with their goals. True Love can conquer anything. Blessed 2008