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I love her more than anything and she knows, but I need help!
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Old 05-01-2011, 03:59 PM
Koz Koz is offline
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Default I love her more than anything and she knows, but I need help!

Alright guys, first and foremost I appreciate you taking the time to read this little dilemma and any questions or responses are welcome!

I met this girl through a female friend of mine a year and a few months ago, she was 16 back then and I was 18. Oddly enough I had met her a day after she and her boyfriend split because he had to go live abroad. In anycase, I met her alongside two other guy friends of mine who went to school with me back then (One of which is irrelevant, and one of which plays a major part in this dilemma).

Within the first month of knowing her, we got close very quickly and would talk to each other all day, I told her I loved her 2 months onwards but I got rejected (mainly due to the fact she still thought she was not over her ex). But that didn't stop us from becoming close, we would text everyday as soon as we wake up, and we hung out every weekend (alongside the two other male friends of mine who met her on the same day as me, and some other of her friends would come too).

Eventually before her ex came to visit the country again(on holiday, temporarily), she and him got back together, I had to leave the country a month afterwards to study abroad. Oddly enough though, when I was away from July to December, we grew even more closer, we would skype nearly daily etc.

When I came back to visit in December, thats when all the crap started to heap, the other fella (my male friend) who she met as the same as I did revealed his feelings to her (even when she was still technically in a relationship with the boy she broke up with, when he went back again after his holiday they were still together)

So I started growing mad and jealous, and she would say 'I would never break up with my boyfriend again, and I'd pick you over your friend anyday'. Well guess what, a few days afterwards she broke up with him (he barely puts any effort by the way, she did it all) and by that point I had to go back to England as I studied abroad. So from January til now, she's been getting closer and closer with this friend of mine and they went out for about three weeks (as much as it broke my heart and we had a huge fight about it). She comes back to weeks later after our fight and says she misses me, I soften up and take her back.

It pisses me off, and it makes me very jealous seeing how close to him she is now, because that used to be me. I'm back here, ever since April, and its very hard to hang out with both of them. (The fucker races to sit next to her in a car/restaurant etc.)

Honestly, what do I do here? I love her to bits, and we're very close, not as we used to be at this moment in time. But close to the degree we'd complete each others sentences, laugh hysterically at our jokes, and say things at the same time sometimes. etc.


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Old 05-11-2011, 11:25 AM
lylia05 lylia05 is offline
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Default give up.

Honesty, it sounds like this girl doesn't really want to be with you in a romantic way. I really don't want to hurt you more because we all come on here for help, but I would say that she wants you in her life as a friend, but nothing more. So cliche, but it sounds like she loves you, but isn't in love with you. Both of you are still very young and we all have a lot to learn. Keep your head up and I'm sure things will work out one way or another.
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Old 06-10-2011, 02:58 AM
makeitreal makeitreal is offline
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Lylia is right

Sometimes we have to accept the fact. The fact that she's talking to you, she's laughing with you, etc doesn't mean she is also in love with you. I would suggest, just enjoy your relationship with her as her best friend. Eventually, if she really into you, she will tell you :-)

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