I need love advice!?

LaLaK · #1 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 07:53 PM

I am divorced with a 13 year old son, My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now and we have a beautiful baby girl. My boyfriend is ill and is very depressed, not only about his illness, but his employment issues as well. I am trying to be the glue to hold our relationship together, but he is pulling away fast. At the moment we are not living together, but I am in the process of purchasing a home for us, I love him, but please give me advice on loving a depressed man, all the research I have done is either not working or bringing me down with him. I want to be a family... help!

dunleavyblows · #2 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 03:45 PM

Is he seeking medical help? If not, he should. If you are ok with the situation, stay put and give him your support. If you are feeling like you are being mistreated, get out. As much as you love him, your well being should be more important to you than his.

Allison112 · #3 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 05:13 PM

It is hard to be both optimistic and realistic, but that is the best advice I have. Talk to him, make him laugh, take care of him, encourage him. It is a hrad balance, but make sure you don't baby him, because he needs to come out on the other side of this the same or a stronger man than before.And I would advise you not to buy a home until you are married.