Well..... you have to be realistic.... if there isn't much choice, then you may end up alone OR you will have to change your expectations a little.... you can hold on to the most important thing... I'd say religion, because that effects your beliefs and attitudes.... but race, culture, country....there are fabulous people all around who may not look like you or be from the exact same culture, but if you can agree on the big issues of life and you share the same faith -- that can make the other things easier to overcome and manage.... OR... if you're not religious, then marry someone of a different faith and look for some other trait.... but if you want it ALL, you have to face facts that you may never get all that in one person.