i think im in love. advice please?

whisper_a_dream26 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 02:57 PM

me and this guy have been best friends for 5 years. we have developed feelings for each other. last night we slept together and it was wonderful. He wants to be with me but is afraid to commit because he is in the army and feels that he can't be there for me cause he may have to go to Iraq. He gets out in 2008. He says he doesnt want me to wait, but he did say when he gets out that he will be ready to get involved with me. i love him so much and i want him to see that him being in the army shouldn't hold us back from being together. can anyone give me some advice on what to do?

anu_dew2000 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-31-2008, 07:46 AM

Propose to him. Seriously, show him that you don't give a sh** that he's going to the army, and that your love for him is true as ever. YOu should let him know that you love him so much and that him going to the army isn't going to hold you back...If you really love him and if he really loves you..well...put 2 and 2 together ^_^Good luck to you

begeeman13 · #3 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 02:16 PM

if you legitimately feel the way that he does, then i think you should accept what he believes in. however, if you really love him, you cannot agree to see other people, even when he's gone. yes, he's said its ok, but believe me if he finds out you did, its going to break his heart. if you want to truly be with him, then your heart will grant you the strength you need to wait for him. he'll come home...

Aaron F · #4 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 09:26 PM

Beleive it or not, 2008 isn't that far off. It seems like it, but it's not. If you two want to be together, then just be together and see what happens. If you twqo are good together and are mature enough to be apart then the time apart will only be good for you (it will sukc too but...) but if you two arent ready, then it won;t work out. Stop thinking so much and jsut be together and see what happens. Good luck.

Johnny Bravo · #5 (**permalink**) 01-13-2009, 08:48 PM

Well, if he's not ready to put forth a commitment, then there really isn't anything you can do about it. Having spent six years in the military I can tell you how easy it is to find girls (all over the world) that will fill his lonely times. Even if he loves you, knowing that there is no commitment....he will date and have fun. You cannot put your life on hold for the next two years and"hope"that a commitment is forthcoming. Continue life as usual and maintain contact with him. In two years, see where you are and where he is. If you're still available and he is still interested and you are still interested...then pursue it. If you've moved on, then you need to figure out if what you have is worth leaving to go back to the guy that wouldn't commit.

pycosal · #6 (**permalink**) 02-03-2009, 09:08 PM

Write him stay in contact but go on with your life school,job or what are your aspirations in life 2008 is a while and a lot can happen but just be open and honest with him the whole way through the next 2 years.