Love advice is nice, please give me some?

chaosisaar0n · #1 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 05:43 PM

Me and my girlfriend have been togeither for a year tommorow, and well, the love has faded or the lust, whatever you want to call it and it's been gone for awhile, has anyone felt nothing for awhile and then it came back? I need something to hope on, any advice besides do things that we did in the past? I would like to be more in love with my girlfriend,instead of feeling nothing, One of the reasons i feel this way is because we've been fighting a lot and i'm obsessive compulsive, I would obsess on all my feeling for her, but now i dont feel very much

, Thanks for the adviceWe're both young, i'm 18, she's 19

a_d_g_e_q · #2 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 11:20 AM

i hate to say it...but...... it's like going out with someone for 3 years, and breakin up....and well...it just stays down....it'll never be the same as before ya know?it's up to you. if u don't feel it anymore....you should talk to her about it and see how she feels. maybe the"spark"will come back, maybe it won't.... but from my experiences, and from all my friends experiences..... any love or sparks shouldn't EVER subside...it should be there no matter what.

Certified Ass Kicker · #3 (**permalink**) 01-07-2009, 05:32 AM

thats how i felt with my last bf...and i would always pour my heart out to him and tell him how i felt so we could make it better... but he just kept brushing me off...so i let him go...Im not telling you to let her go...but you really need to go and talk to her about what you are feeling...

rahulio · #4 (**permalink**) 01-07-2009, 09:12 PM

this is a tough situation. it seems as though you definitely still care about her and do not want to hurt her. in all honesty, that initial lust/passion doesnt last forever. there should be more than that keeping your relationship alive. would you consider her your best friend? do you balance each other and give each other daily support? i think the best thing to do if you are not sure is to go on a'break'. if any real love is left, the distance from each other during the break will be painful enough to bring you back together. if during the break you become interested in another girl, it is time to break up. you both are very young and there is no point in extending something that isnt working out.