for people who have loved and lost.......i need advice, opinions, help?

#1 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 07:23 PM

I fell in love with a girl 4years ago. we were together the first 3, but we had a kid together and never stopped believing we should be together. Then last month her and my son move 15hours away because she was sure we wouldn't really work out (trust issues... i didn't cheat though). Now on the comp. she is talking about working things out eventually.. in the meantime i think i have met someone who is really special but really new to me. Should I give the baby momma another chance or try something new?

#2 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 07:23 PM

Because there is a kid involved I would try to work it out with your previous girl friend. You obviously loved each other enough to have a baby together. Trust doesn't just happen, it has to be built.

#3 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 07:23 PM

i suggest starting new but being there for your child good luck

#4 (**permalink**) 01-01-2009, 07:23 PM

not if you just want to be with her cause of your kid but i would really work out something on the distance thing with seeing your kid oh and even though you have a kid together that does not mean that there is love

#5 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 07:23 PM

in our culture, give the mommy another change if you still feel something for her and her for you. if there is none, go - and move on. you are entitled to be happy

#6 (**permalink**) 01-06-2009, 07:23 PM

if she deserted you which she did, i think u need physical custody of your child and u need to walk away from her for good. good luck!!

#7 (**permalink**) 01-11-2009, 07:23 PM

" If life separated you ,there is only love that can bring you back together "

#8 (**permalink**) 01-15-2009, 07:23 PM

My personal opinion? Give the baby momma another chance. Something new will be exciting and invigorate you, but you'll essentially ruin your chance to patch things up with your mother of your child. You may not think so now since its technically not "wrong" for you to do so, but, the focus of your attention will drift away significantly.

#9 (**permalink**) 01-17-2009, 07:23 PM

For the sake of the baby It will be better not to let go of her. A kid has the right to have a mum and dad, give him that chance. And talk to the mum to know what she wants okay.

#10 (**permalink**) 01-22-2009, 07:23 PM

what does your heart tells you? . i am not going to give you that answer that answer to that question has to come from you.

#11 (**permalink**) 01-26-2009, 07:23 PM

I would ask her why she moved so far away if she wanted to "eventually work things out?" If you and the baby momma are meant to be together, you'll find a way to get back together. Do you love her??? DO you feel like she IS the one?? If so, DONT LOSE HER!! Figure out a way for her to give you another chance. (ROSES AND CHOCOLATE ARE A PLUS!!) Hope I've helped. Good luck!

#12 (**permalink**) 01-31-2009, 07:23 PM

I think you should give the relationship another chance especially now that you guys have a kid.
Love is sweeter the second time around.

#13 (**permalink**) 02-05-2009, 07:23 PM

Obviously, you're thinking of love as something you fall INTO and OUT OF, as if it was a pair of briefs!

You already made some NOT SO GOOD choices. Do you really want to continue on that course for life?

"GIVE BABY MOMMA" YIKES!!! Where do you all come from????

Rev. Steven

#14 (**permalink**) 02-09-2009, 07:23 PM

you said eventually?when that?that's real hard cause people do make mistakes,but maybe shes just telling you that cause shes not sure if she wants you but she dint want nobody else to have you.I would wait a tab longer and if you feel shes playing games that shes not trying to work it out now or soon then i wouldn't wait fever i would talk to the new girl,maybe she wouldn't leave you like that.follow your heart.only you know what your heart if feeling...take care..

#15 (**permalink**) 02-10-2009, 07:23 PM

Just because you guys have a baby together doesn't mean you have to be together. She left you. now she wants you back. did find out about the other girl? is that why she wants you back? you try it with this new girl. But keep things nice with the baby's momma. because she does have your son. but dint give up on your chance at love with this girl. if it doesn't work out with her and you still have feelings for your baby's mom then try it again. but wait and find out whats going on with the new girl first. but make sure you stay in your baby's life. dint make your baby boy suffer for his parents decisions.

#16 (**permalink**) 02-13-2009, 07:23 PM

I don't know the whole story obviously, but, are you sure she isn't trying to let you down gently? 'we will work things out eventually'....... after she moved 15 hours away?? Unless it was for an amazing job or a family thing, why would anyone who wants to work things out move so far away?

#17 (**permalink**) 02-15-2009, 07:23 PM

Well then you have not really loved and lost, because you are willing to give up your ex, for someone you "think" is special to you. Your son and ex. just left a month ago, come on, you obviously are in denial or your ex. was right about you. I have told my husband that I dint feel the love from him and that we should separate, so he could sort his feelings out, my husbands response was, what if it backfires on you and I start looking? Well then I would finally know the truth and be done with him. Sorry dint mean to come down on you, but if you really love your ex then you should not have to question yourself.