can u give me a love advice?

#1 (**permalink**) 02-21-2010, 07:23 PM

Ok you see i have a boy friend and we have been going out for 6 years now, (and i am only 17) anyway we love each other to death. BUT...we had to keep our love on the down low buzz it is forbid en(its forbid en for us in our religion) to have a boyfriend....my mom found out about us and was mad. I was then going though a lot of hard times with my family buzz of all this. i sent him an email say thing what had hap pend....and the only thing he could say was i am SO sorry baby..(he said that a lot of times when we where talking)then my computer went off, i singed back on as fast as i can and.....he was not there.
I try ed to talk to him for 3 days now....i feel soo lost ....i miss him so much...hes the one for me i know he is...i love him so much. we even had names for our babys...what do i do now?

#2 (**permalink**) 02-25-2010, 07:23 PM

When you turn 18 move out and get married to him! Its SOpoord to find love these days! I wish you the very best of luck!!!

#3 (**permalink**) 02-28-2010, 07:23 PM

Hei s mine and break up with him...ha ha ha ha ha ha HES MINES! HA Ha ha ha ha

#4 (**permalink**) 03-04-2010, 07:23 PM

tell your mom you have to go study but instead your going out with him.

#5 (**permalink**) 03-07-2010, 07:23 PM

He probably just doesn't think you're worth the effort, no offense, but if he cant even talk to you after 6 years over this, it might be true.

#6 (**permalink**) 03-10-2010, 07:23 PM

Go out and explore, I have three busies that married Herschel sweethearts and are miserable, of course they will never tell their wives..

#7 (**permalink**) 03-14-2010, 08:23 PM

You are very young and there are a lot of guys ahead of you. You don't want to hear that, but it's true. I would just go with the flow and if you lose him, just know there are 100 guys willing to take his place. I'm sure you have a lot to offer someone.

#8 (**permalink**) 03-16-2010, 08:23 PM

If you love something, set it free, if it comes back, it's forever

#9 (**permalink**) 03-21-2010, 08:23 PM

Wow that six....If I were you I would seriously consider arranging some kind of dinner or something so that you can talk to Ur bf and Ur mom @ the same time...also, since u haven't talked to him for 3 days, u might wanna make sure that hes not freaked out too bad...

#10 (**permalink**) 03-26-2010, 08:23 PM

you really need to try to talk to him. maybe meet somewhere and talk. you also need to try to talk to your parents and get them to understand how much this guy means to you and all. good luck.

#11 (**permalink**) 03-31-2010, 08:23 PM

wow... your love is deep. It reminds me of romeo and Juliet. Just please dint get killed. In my advice i would suggest just going out places by yourselves. Unless you are like a super religion keeper there is no point in you 2 breaking up.... or maybe you could just stay friends!!! but anyway, get a group of friends that your parents trust and say that you are going to the mall. Then have your boyfriend say the same thing. Then meet each other there and let your other friends hang out. Thats what i would do. oh.... and dint communicate by computers. Parents monitor those things like heck!!!

#12 (**permalink**) 04-03-2010, 08:23 PM

Give him a poem

#13 (**permalink**) 04-07-2010, 08:23 PM

Figure out what's going on in your family and try to resolve the issue with them before trying to contact him. It's possible he just hasn't been on the computer and that's why he hasn't talked to you. Also, it's very rare that at the age of 11 people find the love of their lives...maybe you should see what else is out there...

#14 (**permalink**) 04-11-2010, 08:23 PM

just hold on a little longer. when Ur 18 u dint have to follow any rules that Ur mom or religion gives u. its up to up. be glad u found some1 so young. I'm in the same situation. glad I'm not the only one. good luck

#15 (**permalink**) 04-12-2010, 08:23 PM

OK well I'm only 15 and I'm a guy, but i had a relationship with a girl for a year and we broke up a while ago.. mostly because she was too immature to be with one person. we had baby names, the works. I'm sorry but since you've been going out since you were like 11, it may not be true love. i thought it was true love with that person and thought about her every second of the day, wrote her notes, baby names, everything was close. you may just be infatuated instead of in love... it hurts but it happens.

also what kind of religion doesn't allow love

#16 (**permalink**) 04-16-2010, 08:23 PM

he is probably just afraid to talk to you because he doesn't know what to say, or how to help...he doesn't want to go back to you empty handed....don't give up on him...I'm sure he's still there for you, especially after 6 years....just keep trying to talk to him and stuff, and he'll come around, don't worry....don't give up on him.

#17 (**permalink**) 04-18-2010, 08:23 PM

mum i think you should try getting in contact with him he obviously feels the same for you so love should come be for anything even religion, think of the future not the religion as much as your religion may be in your life think of the love it sh old be your future don't give up think of you not your family they should be happy for you not putting you down

hope that's good advice

#18 (**permalink**) 04-21-2010, 08:23 PM

You can't do much. You have to just have faith that what you have is real and can survive any hardship. For the immediate situation I think the best thing you could do is do something that can take your mind off of it all and just relax. But as for the future you may need to think about what your going to do if this relationship wasn't meant to work out. It may be a hard thing to imagine but if you to were to go your separate ways you have to have a plan for your future without him.

#19 (**permalink**) 04-25-2010, 08:23 PM

Wait, never be in a hurry.Time has a way of working things out. Maybe he is not the one, or maybe he is? Just don't be in a hurry. As you get older you'll be glad you took your time. Especially if it doesn't work out.
I am 31 and I still have a lot to learn. i remember 17, nothing turned out the way I had it planned. I did what i had planned, but it turned out different.

#20 (**permalink**) 04-29-2010, 08:23 PM

If you two are meant for each other then everything will be o.k. He may have thought you turned your computer off on purpose, that may have upset him. Give him a day or so longer and keep trying to contact him. Phone him, e-mail him, even write him a letter. It may seem a little stalkers but you two sound like you are meant for each other. You are going to turn 18 soon and once you do you should realize that you are able to make decisions for your self, that includes changing things in your life that are against what you wish. Just keep in mind that you do not want to cause your parents to do something drastic. He still loves you. Do not give up! Go the extra mile! Express your love! Good luck!!!