Any advice on an unhappy mrriage?? I love my hubby but i am out of ideas...please hel

First talk not argue, then compromise both parties must be willing to compromise then talk more preferably over wine do you see where i am going(@).

you need to learn to have communication with each other. Work this out its part of life. Life will not be all good times there is times that we have to work Thur


Best of luck

Well, the problem is communications on both sides. It is never one sided. You say he works nights---you have a baby and work 24/7. You need to skillfully explain that a baby has total reliance on the parents. That means him too. He needs to start doing things with his child and sharing the work of fatherhood.Did his early life mold his present situation? He probably had a rotten role model and has no idea that family is all important for the next 18 years. If he doesn't grasp this then maybe you should move on. Not the first time that a couple had this problem. You need clergy or some other ad visor to point out what marriage entails. Have some respect for yourself and learn to talk to a man---not a boy.Get involved with other people who exhibit positive family values. Surely he has got some free time to devote to help you with chores.If not, move on.

Maybe he's just not used to having someone Else in his life. He'll come around, guys seem to feel as though their territory is being invade because you don't just belong to him anymore.

Okay you weren't specific, so i'm gonna try different scenarios, and you'll know which shoe fits. Okay could it be you're constantly fighting cuz he feels neglected cuz of the baby now being in the picture. Maybe you've cut the sex out of the relationship.

Now where as sex is not everything, ladies we must remember that we still need to keep our men happy in the bedroom! Even if we have to fake it cuz if we don't take care of business just cuz we're feeling down and yucky, guess what baby! Yup someone one else is gonna hop on and go for your ride! So even if you need to fake it, do it. Give him the attention he craves.

Lots of men are like babies, or kids if you will, they need momma's attention too. So if you're neglecting him, stop it. Spice up your sex life. Read up on fastasy role playing or whatever else you might be interested in. Maybe go to the adult store and rent a video or buy something to spice up your love life. You have to be opened minded and hopefully he is too.

You don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with, if you don't wanna, then don't do it girl! Never do something you don't want to do just for your partner. Don't do something you'll live to regret just to keep him happy, cuz you don't know if one day he'll leave and then what!? Well i'll tell you! You're screwed and you'll live with the guilt and regret all your life!

So then, maybe you two fight over money. Maybe think about finding some part time work. Something you can do at home. So many things you can do at home and get paid for it. Go online and look it up. Or look in the pennysaver or ads. I understand you have a baby and daycare is ridiculous, so staying home is a better idea and you still make money, make things lighter financially and you can still take care of the baby and hubby. Win win i say!

I also think that you two should go dating! Each other of course. But seriously, like say meet up at a pub or a cafe and pretend you don't know each other and pick up on him, vice versa. That would be cool! Always wanted to do that! You have to keep fanning the flames girl. Never let them die out on you!

And if you're in therapy right now that's a good sign. It means he's willing to work things out. Don't take that for granted. Don't take him for granted and never let him take you for granted! You both need to love and respect each other.

But you do need to know that if it doesn't work out and you really tried! I mean really tried, then it's not your fault and he just isn't happy and he wants out. If he wants out, then let him go and give yourself a chance at happiness with someone else who will love you like you need and deserve.

So take care of yourself and i really hope this helps you in some way. Good luck to you. And don't be sad, there's hope yet! You're both in counseling!

I d say.... Caring for some one who doesn't care for u is insane..... there is no point .... u r not happy and so is he and so is the rest of u r life gonna be.....

Seperate counseling would help you. Its not your hubby's job to make you happy; that is your job. Marriage is work!! Dont take life so seriously, laugh with your hubby, enjoy the baby, and just relax.

i think u are stressed out, and got bored of Ur routine.for a change do something which u enjoy.u feel like Ur hubby is not helping u share the responsibility of the child?this is quite a common problem.u can hire a helper to take care of the baby and spend some time for itself.do some thing u love and always wanted to do-like joining a dance class,learn music,go window shopping,daily go for nature walks,learn to cook something new,best thing-go to a beauty par lour have good massage and change Ur looks,something which u always wanted to tryout(that would surprise Ur hubby too).taking care of baby is not an easy thing dear.don't be sad and try Sim innovative way to brighten up things.good luck.

Men suck they just do. but try either ignoring him completely or just giving the baby his every whim for a week either one will work to some extent. Good luck sweetie you have my sympathy and prayers. Ihope you get the family you want I really do.


(I meant him when I said baby not your little son)

Allow me to first say you are strong to have kept going you said you have tried counseling and it didn't work why not find out things for yourself first and i dint mean talking to your husband first but to yourself you two got married for a reason you love each other now try and figure out why you dint really get along now it could be sum thin you know but Neva really paid any attention to,after you things will be revealed to you OK hold and Good Luck.