Any advice on an unhappy mrriage?? I love my hubby but i am out of ideas...please hel

well, you gotta be more specific dear in terms of what kinda problems do you have before I guess anyone can really advice you!

Cheers!

try boundaries in marriage book for yourself and it gives hints about how to respond.

Good Luck and God Bless!!

Maybe try another counselor. It may work. Good luck!!!

Take him on Dr. Phil and let him get verbally abused for 15 minutes by a live studio audience. Let Dr. Phil make a couple of jokes at his expense, tell him what an jackass he is being. Might help. But just in case, dress up and get you hair done so that people will hit you up once they see the show. You know, keep your options open.

Okay. It's hard when everybody is unhappy, and there is a baby involved. But..there is hope. I have a great book you could read together..and you can even bring it into your therapy sessions. Here is the link:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0609601040/103-3328001-2481424?v=glance&n=283155

This book is written by John Gottman, Ph.D., one of the premier marriage therapists and relationship researchers in the U.S.

I know it's hard..I have been there too. But ask yourself if you have tried everything you possibly can..before you get divorced. Good luck, and take care of yourself.

i wish i could help u...........but only u can help itself.ill pray for u two,u three rather!!! god bless

This is a tough one and I feel for you. My opinion is that if you are unhappy and counseling isn't working to help you get along, then you should get out of it. Your son will still have 2 loving parents and you won't be miserable. Do you want your son to see you fighting all the time? Do you want to be unhappy until he turns 18 and moves out? I know you love your husband, but if you and he can't make it work, then maybe it's not meant to be.

i know it may sound drastic, but have you tried a trial separation? it may give you both some time and space to work out your feelings for each other.
Hope things work out for you, i really do. good luck.

trial separation. or do what my wife did and find a girlfriend. she seems happy

You did not mention what you were fighting about. But past experience has shown me that it helps a lot if you occasionally put yourself in others shoes and look at things from their point of view.

You have to get the things settle, as you guys are having kid , U guys need to think abet Ur kid how ever Ur life has already passed..so better take care of the kid , Whit impression he is getting from his parents ???? did u ever think abet it . Try to manage things in a positive way, nu thing is impossible ,

Yes, I also think you should give each other some space - maybe separate for a period and see how things go. That will be better for each of you, including your 14 month old son
good luck!

Sounds like he is out of control. Leave him for a while and see what happens. Maybe he will see you are serious about making this work.
He won't change until he is ready.

It takes 2hand to clap, n to fight...
so u dun fight with him , he cant fight with u.
I guess both of u r too stubborn,
If no one give in and talk nicely..
Gosh, it going get worse.

I know you are going to a marriage counselor but have you talked to a psychiatrist to make sure you don't have post-par tum depression, or any kind of depression? Also, are you at home all day with the baby? Do you want to know everything he did all day because you don't have adult interaction. He may feel you don't trust him. You need adult conversation and a day to yourself now and then, and yes, someone to vent to besides your husband. And don't feel guilty about seeing friends or leaving the baby with your husband all day if you are happy and stress free your baby will be also. If this is contributing to the situation, you need tell him this is the way you feel. Even if he doesn't feel you don't trust him; he may feel you are asking for him to solve everything for you; even though that isn't what you mean, men want to "do" something, and he may be feeling frustrated because he doesn't know how he can "fix it".

Try this site, I have a kids and we are a busy family, this book has been wonderful to us http://www.reuniting.info/.
If not , try other literature. Dr Phils relationship rescue is supposed to be quite good.

How about taking a little vacation. Environment makes alto of difference.. if your out together away from work, family things Will be different and i think that's why you guys are fighting day and night its CZ of stress of work and family etc.... it happens in every relationship at one point and that's when you need to take a vacation go somewhere places to see and relax yourself and when you come back your a total different person...I hope this helps!

Hi! Its really sad to see your condition when you are unhappy with someone whom you love and want to be with. I guess no concealing really works unless two people involve in it realize the problem and how to reach towards the solution. i can give you a suggestion see if it works for you. Stay separate along with your kid from your hubby for sometimes and then you both may realize where you are exactly falling short and top of it are you guys missing each other in your lives. Its actually worked out with a couple I know. best of lucks.