What advice what you give to a friend that is stuck in a love triangle with two guys?

#1 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 07:31 PM

My friend is in a relationship with a 27 year old and she's only 17. He never says it but always implies that he wouldn't be wasting his time if he didn't love her. He's giving her money before to buy herself clothing and paid for certain trips so she would be able to visit him. But they have always been on a up and down scale. From "I'll never leave you" to "I really don't want you and you need to stop calling me". But's that's from both. We work together and I've seen a change in her, and I couldn't tell whether or not it's a good or bad thing from the way she approaches. She finally tells me that her ex boyfriend who she really did love entered her life and wants to be with her. He's such a gentle man and has so much respect for her. But she does want to sacrifice anything right now or be played with because it can be a possibility she wants to get back with her recent other (Don't know why). But she can't stop thinking about her ex. Her boyfriend has a control on her emotions. But..
Before all that sacrificing I meant that she does not want to sacrifice anything. Sorry bad spelling.
To add this last thing. Her ex is 17 also. His b-day is a day before heir's. They are both Libra's. And her recent boyfriend doesn't care about going to jail. The reason she wants to be with him (Don't know why) is because he has this great power over her that she can't describe. He doesn't force her to do anything and he never hurt her physically, but he does hurt her mentally. Well more emotionally. But sometimes I think she likes that sort of thing because she goes back to him. What shall she do? Or what can I do to help her?

#2 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 07:31 PM

Your friend should sleep with them both

#3 (**permalink**) 12-29-2008, 07:31 PM

Well. Who ever she really loves is the one she should be with. She can't be in a love triangle because she will be screwed it the guys find out and break up with her and then she will have no one. So she has to pick one.

#4 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 07:31 PM

Sounds lick she don't have no control on her emotions. She needs 2 decide on this tough not u. U might get a little 2 far in the situation.

#5 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 07:31 PM

Your friend should probably not be with either of these. If she had feelings of love, respect etc for either she wouldn't want to see others. If she wants to date more than one guy that is fine but she needs to be honest with both. She also needs to be careful because she is a minor and could get in 'statutory rape' trouble with the guy who wants to be her 'daddy' and give her money. Ask her to write down the pluses and minuses of each and figure out if she *really* wants to be with either.

#6 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 07:31 PM

can u say D.P

#7 (**permalink**) 01-08-2009, 07:31 PM

~Wow. It sounds like a tough situation. Personally I think that if she is only 17.. she should maybe think about sticking to her own age... although age is just a number, it's different when you are 17. Isn't the 27 year old kinda afraid of going to jail? One thing she shouldn't do is lead the 2 on and cheat. It happened to me back when I was 19 and it really blew up in my face. The two guys were friends... and then after they found out... I was still talking to both of them and I hurt them both and ended up losing them both. It is best to just be with one person otherwise, be open and honest to both of them. I wish her luck. She's only 17 though, plenty of growing up to do.~