Is this forgivable. Serious answers. need advice...I do love her...too much.?

#1 (**permalink**) 01-29-2009, 07:41 PM

My ex & I were 2get her 4 awhile & it was like a marriage. We separated over some financial problems & she left 4 her son. I understood. We were even still talk in of being back 2get her & chill in hard. I started get tin this nag gin feel in of her see in somebody else or hell USS be in shady. I eventually found out about her talk in 2 sum ppl. She lied about it then so I felt I didnt have any proof & we started interacting again. Probably harder than b4. Then more things started coming out & she was lyin 2 me about it & when she was w/ me she ignored her phone calls & when she was doin dirt, she ignored my calls. I found out she was meeting everybody & they momma off the chatlines & internet. Eventhough she did dat 2 me I warned her bout dat. One of them attacked her after finding out she was playin games w/ em & threatenin her now so she all changed around & apologizing 2 me 4 hurting me...what should I do? There was no sex...mainly a lot of lyin. Should I let her back in eventually. SERIOUS

#2 (**permalink**) 01-31-2009, 07:41 PM

if your love for her is strong enough then forgive and take her back but no regrets subsequently

#3 (**permalink**) 02-02-2009, 07:41 PM

Nope once a cheat always a cheat, can you honestly trust her after this? Thats what you need to ask yourself, if not then move on.
-NmD!

#4 (**permalink**) 02-04-2009, 07:41 PM

you know what Dag..for me ID what i would do...all i know is that before she didn't want you, but now she is coming back...if i was you i would take her back, cause you love her right..but just remember that if she did it once she can do it again..so just remember this..love is a game..learn how to play it..and you would win..later bro..

#5 (**permalink**) 02-08-2009, 07:41 PM

Well there are several things to consider here. First, you love this woman and no matter what anyone tell you, you are going to do whats in your heart. So with that being said here are a couple of things to consider. Trust is a major thing in any relationship, if you think you are strong enough to get past what she has done, then give her a chance to gain your trust back. Another thing to consider is that we are all human and no matter what we make mistakes in life, no one is perfect, but she may be perfect for you. If nothing else this will hopefully be something that will make the both of you stronger as a couple. Good Luck.

#6 (**permalink**) 02-13-2009, 07:41 PM

You must come back down to earth! You think you love her very much? If you really do, there will be no conditions imposed. It really is very difficult if it is a one way affair!
Accept the fact that even if she gets back to you, there will always be a possibility that she may stray again. Once you accept this, then go on and live your life! It has to go on.

#7 (**permalink**) 02-15-2009, 07:41 PM

From what I gather the whole premise of homosexuality is based on sex. It is that simple. That is why things such as dedication and honesty are thrown out the door. It is an ungodly lifestyle simple as that. It looks like you are expecting something righteous to come out on ungodly lifestyle. Unless a person makes major lifestyle changes, mainly establish a personal relationship with God, they are going to continue being the same person. If your friend is a liar she is always going to be a liar. So if your are expecting things to be different you are in for a rude awakening. With that said, should you let her back in your life?

#8 (**permalink**) 02-18-2009, 07:41 PM

Hunny does it not bother you that she only wants to be back with you now that her other options are closed? That she only wants to be back with you because other people are threatening her? That she lied to your face about seeing other people even though at the time you were under no obligation to each other? If these things don't bother you (which they should) then if you love her enough - go for it. But you have to realize that the trust is going to be extremely hard to come by. You will be suspicious every time she goes out without you, every time she gets a phone call - you are going to wonder who is it? Who is she with? Is she lying? She has treated you as someone to fall back on if everything else doesn't work out - and deep down I think you know that. Don't go backwards just because you had a great time with her in the past - she has broken the circle of trust. Look after and protect your heart Hanny. Best of luck and I really hope everything works out for the best - whatever you decide to do!!

xx