is it possible to be in love with two men at the same time help need advice?

#1 (**permalink**) 05-20-2010, 08:43 PM

one was a long relationship that ended with feelings the other was the rebound guy and i married him i 'm in love with the other guy still and i do love my husband we are good together but he deserves some one to love him back the other guy and i have a child together so we have to be friends for her I've been married for 6yrs and my dagger is 10.should i just give up on the other guy he says he feel the same way about me I'm still trying to figure out why we broke up . catch now other guy is married now please help me with my feelings someone has to be going though the same things

#2 (**permalink**) 05-22-2010, 08:43 PM

Go back to your husband for the kid. Serious.

#3 (**permalink**) 05-26-2010, 08:43 PM

exactly, people have gone through this before. you know, before you got married, you should have gotten over the other. bedim sure you realized that already. for the sake of your kid, keep on living the way you are...except try to REALLY get over the other.you're both married. get over you selves. Don't try to Analise the break up. just dint, you know you re only wasting time. it sounds like you re looking for a reason to end your family. be grateful for what you have and, good luck.

#4 (**permalink**) 05-31-2010, 08:43 PM

you're hoping the other guy that you left for your now husband, is going to be better for you now. but not likely. he's still the same man he was and he is now married as are you.

stick with your current husband, and focus your love on him. don't keep in contact with the other man, because then, you'll remain confused.

yes, i think it is possible to love more than one person at the same time, but it's not possible to remain committed to a marriage with two people in the boat. stick with integrity first and try to control your emotions.

#5 (**permalink**) 06-02-2010, 08:43 PM

oh god mine is so much more complicated see i was in love with Dan but we thought we broke up then i met Alfred and we got married its been 6months and Dan comes back in my life saying he loves me and i really do love Dan and wants to be with him but he was in Texas while i was in the Caribbean and he was with another girl while i was with my husband he told me recently that he's engaged but while i was waiting for him(after am married) i met Enrique who i fell in love with(confused yet?) and now am not in love with my husband i like dan but i gotta let go and am crazy about enrique but he lives in mexico and am face with the question should i got to mexico to enrique or florida to my husband? see your your ok pretty normal now me am messed up!!

#6 (**permalink**) 06-07-2010, 08:43 PM

Well I'm in the same situation but not as deep to tell you the Truth If your married and their nothing wrong with your marriage all their is to do is put every thing on the table and tell your ex how your feeling about him put some closer to it and maybe you'll feel a little different when he gave you an responds. because the only reason way you feel like that is because you probably just seen him and you have this old feeling bu just remember you guys broke up for an reason I hope it wasn't something silly.