Please give me some advice..it is so hard to move on..i mean i really really do love

#1 (**permalink**) 04-26-2010, 08:43 PM

this girl is the world to me, and i really am having a tough time understanding this, could you help. thanks?
this is what a girl i like sent me, after i asked her how she felt. i know it sounds like a nice way of saying no, but her and her mom are really close, and she says shes just REALLY scared of ruining the friendship. What should i think she( the girl i like) is telling me, based on this email

hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either because its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think that's how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

now, too me that sounds like a nice way of saying no because of " i have never seen us as more than friends and tats how it should stay..
but becks of this " i just dint wanna ruin a friendship" confuses me

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6 minutes ago
now, i know she has made it very clear, she doesn't want to take it to the next level.... do u think that in the future shell like me or what..i mean..CZ she says she afraid of ruin in the friendship.so what should i do

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10 minutes ago
i mean, did she say that because she is scared of ruining the friendship
or because she doesn't know what she wants
or she just doesnt wanna ruin the friendship
or a combination of them all

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14 minutes ago
i mean its so hard to move on. it tears my heart out to see her. because we used to be so close, we really had a thing going. and now she's always with some other guy, like she used to be with me, i love her i really do. but should i forget about her forever?

#2 (**permalink**) 04-29-2010, 08:43 PM

maybe she will love you in the future. i think that she has the complexity of all those things that you think. be her Friend.

#3 (**permalink**) 04-30-2010, 08:43 PM

Just give it some time,it would be better if you stay away from her for a little while.At least for a month,no call and no email.Sometime it is the only way she knows if she have feeling for you or not.And if there are no changes,well you need to look somewhere else.Good luck

#4 (**permalink**) 05-05-2010, 08:43 PM

i realize this is hard for you ,,when you really want someone but they dint feel the same about you ,,i truly think that she only wants friendship with you right now ,,you need to let go of this and decide if you can stay only friends with her or not ,,if its hard to separate your love and friendship feelings then step back from it ,,