In my experiences with romance, I have learned that there is a physical difference between true love and so-so love. Infatuation is often confused with true love, but what people don't realize is that it is actually the most corrupting love. For example, a man and woman share very strong intimate feelings for one another, soon leading to obsession and reliance. Simple acts such as hand holding and kissing have become extreme moments of pleasure, and the lovers become infatuated with each other. Do you consider that true love? Surprisingly, that situation is definitely not true love, but pseudo, schoolboy love. In order for one to know whether or not the love is true, consider how calm you are instead, how protecting you are instead of desiring, how promising your relationship is rather than how you never spend enough time with each other. It is only then that people realize that their relationship can transcend in calmness, rather than excitement. Calmness leads to attachment, while excitement leads to boredom and corruption. I hope that answers your question on the definition of true love, so let us apply this to your relationship. First of all, are you ready for marriage at 24? Perhaps you should wait and figure out if you really want him for him or his finances. Also, if you are not physically attracted to him, you may not experience infatuation, but you will experience boredom and hesitation in intimacy. Moreover, the drama of dating and single life is not something to dread, but to revere, as it helps you get to know yourself and what you really want in someone. There will always be plenty of potential lovers. Again, make sure you are not engaging in marriage purely for the money, that is another element of corruption. Finally, time in an engagement does not necessarily mean an increase in love. In fact, even the most healthy relationships may dwindle due to lack of intimacy or attention. There is also an enormous difference between love for a brother and love for a husband. For a brother, you are willing to give up your own happiness. For a husband, you both must share happiness and sorrow equally for true love to be true.
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