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I have been going out with this girl for over two and a half years and we love each other very much. We broke up twice (once for two days about a year ago and once for two months earlier this year) but we there is so much love still between us. We have always had one big problem..... sex. We only do it like once every three or four weeks!! And we are barely into our twenties!! Its gotten to the point where we hardly ever make out and barely cuddle because every time we do I get turned on and try to kiss her neck or do something to take it further. Can you blame me? The mood is amazing and its super romantic so its not like I'm just grabbing her boob out of nowhere. We dint even flirt anymore because of the same reason. I think she would be an amazing wife and mother should those circumstances ever happen but I cant live like this. Ive talked to her a lot and she says shes just tired and that it will be different if we got married. Well what if its not? What should I do???
We broke up because of jealousy reasons on my part. I am not jealous in the slightest bit anymore, if anything she is.
I know love/marriage isn't based on sex but it has to be present more than it is now because I am not happy.... at all. I dint want to end up having an affair if we get married because my wife isn't satisfying me.
Should I look for someone else or hope she gets better?
I am an awesome boyfriend to the person that I love and I know there are girls out there that can satisfy me in that certain way. But I am so attached to this one...
It would NOT be more frequent if you got married. It sounds like you both have different sexual apatite's. Maybe the way you approach her for sex is not appealing. Ask her to be frank with you. Is there something you can do to be more appealing to her. shh, don't tell anyone but... any man that starts her off with a vibe will get sex. It's a fact, keep it in mind.
Dont make her feel like u just want her for sex.......maybe shes not ready.Still flirt,make out,cuddle..etc....but dint always think it'll lead to something.Just wait until shes ready..you dint want to ruin what you have.
Married sex` is different that non married. It is safe and secure inside marriage- maybe she wants to get married- but does not come and ask you to ask her to marry her-that would be odd and maybe even humiliating for her to ask- I agree w her saying it would be different if you were married-and better-have blessed sex inside marriage-I don't know what values you have - and maybe her conscience is bothering her having sex outside of marriage. Best to you both- D
Wat happen if u make the gal pregnant?gal also like to go with boy because they will be proud but marry already people will thank that sex is naturally
I believe that you don't please her that much while in action. She loves you, but she doesn't know how to teach you how a man should act in bed. You should ask other men how to do it or even read magazines, not "PO#n".
It wont change after you get married, nope i take that back...it will get worse...If she isn't all that you want and need you should move on...If you think she will be a wonderful partner and someone you can be with the rest of your life, with sex the way it is or worse then be with her. Its better to figure these thing out now before your married and have a bunch of kiddos, then later when you cant stand it anymore and you get divorced....
Youre being selfish and you don't love her. Well, it's possible you're just not loving her at the moment. If you can't wait for her then you don't love her and you don't deserve her. Marriage and love isn't just about "YOU". Two people are a union. S E X is a union. I hope you can get these priorities straight.
She sounds pretty amazing to me.
Someone will notice that, if you dint.
Well the good news is that there is alto of love between you. But her explanation of being "tired" ( in her 20s!!!) is a RED flag. She may feel guilty about being sexually involved before marriage. But it sounds deeper than that issue. Is she on any kind of medication that could have her libido unwilling to be enthused about being sexual? Was there some kind of trauma/ molestation/rape in her past. If you think she tired now wait until 3 kids and a full time job comes into play. I have one child and I live on the "island of Tired." and I am much older than her. It is said that physical sex is about 10% of a marriage on average. I suggest you work your love out and then decided if you and live with that or less.
tell her if she doesn't satisfies Ur moving on and see how she reacts.sex is important and if she doesn't gives u DAT in the long run if u insist of marrying her I'll seek outside and I'll have divorce etc. and want want her anymore.Talk to her first,state clearly Wat u want from her if he cant do anything den Pl my dear leave Ur feelings besides and seek outside before problem arise.
I think girls will change after marriage, but to the worst.. so if she is like this now after marriage I think she will not let you do anything after...
I need some girl advice. I love her but.....?
