I need advice about a new relationship at age 40; we made love after only two weeks.?

#1 (**permalink**) 10-18-2008, 08:50 PM

We connected very quickly and love being together. We both have been celibate for five years. Two days later, I am freaking out, knowing that it happened too fast, but also sure that I care for him. Is premarital sex such a huge issue when one is in her 40's? I would appreciate advice.

#2 (**permalink**) 10-23-2008, 08:50 PM

Go with the flow

#3 (**permalink**) 10-25-2008, 08:50 PM

Only if you feel as if you feel it was wrong. Just go and live in the moment. and enjoy life.

#4 (**permalink**) 10-26-2008, 08:50 PM

Obviously, the best answer is to wait until marriage, but if he didn't dump you after a few months of sex, then you are probably onto something really good. Best of luck to you!

#5 (**permalink**) 10-30-2008, 08:50 PM

honey no it isn't ,at 40 you know what you want enjoy each other and just relax and let it happen!!!!!

#6 (**permalink**) 11-03-2008, 07:50 PM

Well, that settles it.

You're a s l u t, and you're gonna go to Heck.

Heck, I tells ya!

#7 (**permalink**) 11-07-2008, 07:50 PM

just follow your heart. if you think that you are moving to fast then slow it down some. you can have a great relationship without having sex all the time.

#8 (**permalink**) 11-12-2008, 07:50 PM

If you care for each other and want to be together, why should it be an issue? Enjoy it and stop with the guilt. Are you Catholic or something? he he.

#9 (**permalink**) 11-14-2008, 07:50 PM

I'm 41 and I would say that premarital sex is not a huge issue as long as you used protection against STDs.

If you enjoyed it, try not to feel regrets. What is there to regret?

#10 (**permalink**) 11-18-2008, 07:50 PM

dint worry about it. you are an adult enjoy your life. consider yourself lucky that you found a man at your age that makes you both act like lovestruck teenagers!!!! enjoy the sex before you get too old to have it!

#11 (**permalink**) 11-22-2008, 07:50 PM

Hon, your both adults and been there, done that. No one can or should dictate when it is too soon to have sex when BOTH of the parties involved are agreeing to do it WHEN they feel like it. Also, the deed is done so stop fretting about it. Once you get up in age (I'm 37) there is Soho much of the beginning stage and Crayola that you don't need. Your older and wiser. Hold your head and do NOT live life with regrets. Take care.

#12 (**permalink**) 11-23-2008, 07:50 PM

Are you some kind of prude waiting 2 whole weeks????/ Lil no, sorry just teasing. No it's not a big deal especially at our age. This is usually when women are in their prime sexually anyway. Don't feel bad or sweat it.

#13 (**permalink**) 11-28-2008, 07:50 PM

not at all..... this isn't the 50's...... as long as u were safe, and enjoyed itself, and have feelings for each other, nothing is wrong with that..... everyone has needs

#14 (**permalink**) 12-03-2008, 07:50 PM

well apparently premarital sex is not a big deal anymore and it is not like you are a virgin. If he is not having a problem with it do not worry about it. Sometimes when you are older things just happen quickly and are right

#15 (**permalink**) 12-08-2008, 07:50 PM

Lets just say we should have some gain with our age. Uncaring sex is always a big deal, but what you are talking about is perfectly acceptable. No one is using anyone else, no one put pressure on anyone, it was just a very happy and loving time had by all. Of course precautions must be taken, you don't want a late life baby and studs can remain active for years after contraction so you have to be just as careful as any other age group about that.
Other than that, have a good time, its only too fast if you aren't happy with him.

#16 (**permalink**) 12-11-2008, 07:50 PM

just make sure you are both moving at the same pace, dint go too aha or stay behind for fear, enjoy it, at 40 you should know what is best for you

#17 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 07:50 PM

no is not a problem

u r at Ur sexual peek
come on have fun

stop doing that

have fun girl yummy

#18 (**permalink**) 12-19-2008, 07:50 PM

you dint need any advice after the fact. go with the flow. have fun!

#19 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 07:50 PM

I dint think premarital sex is such a biggie. Its probably better to 'test drive' your partner and make sure you are totally compatible.

#20 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 07:50 PM

i really don't think that premarital sex is a huge issue at all, regardless of age. but everyone has their own view. i think that if you both connected that quickly, expressing your love physically was a very natural and loving thing and you really should be happy, not feeling guilty. 5 years is a long time and it's obvious that making love is something you take to heart, which is rare these days and good