I need an advice.. i am in love to a guy who is married...what am i to do i really lo

You will never be able to find someone else, as long as you keep feeling sorry for your self.
Get out of the house even if you don't feel like it.
That perfect match for you may just be around the corner & you will miss it if you don't try.
It will take time, but you can get over it if you really want to.
The trick is wanting to get over him in stead of feeling sorry for yourself.

When, Oh When, are some women going to learn that THIS is almost ALWAYS how this crap works out in the end???? Honestly....the man was looking for sex! Thats it! He gets EVERYTHING ELSE AT HOME! You think he isn't having sex with his wife??? Think again!

I hope you learned your lesson!

It sounds to me like the guy is not happily married, or maybe it took him cheating to realize that he is, either way that is not your concern. But what I will say is this. I know right now it feels as though there was a connection, and maybe there was for you, but in order for it to be completely satisfying it has to be for him as well, and it sounds to me that it isn't. You have to ask yourself do you love him, or do you love the idea of him. Are you hoping for the happy ending that you feel another woman already has. Are you pining over the fact that he loves his wife enough to not be with you, does that in itself make you want him more. If the reasons are yes, then ask yourself this if you love this man because of his devotion to his family, if he left his family for you, then wouldn't you be destroying the very essence of why you fell for him. Maybe this happened to prepare you for what a real relationship without the fantasy really means. What you need to focus on is what you want, and how to achieve this not in your mind, but in your reality. The only way you can do this is to let go of him, so you can embrace yourself, and move on. I know you are hurting, because of the lack of, but through that hurt is where you will find strength and clarity to better your decision making..
I wish you well

Ooohhh....this is so moving. Why....I'm reaching for my hanker chief now to stop these tears rolling down my face at this horrible dilemma you're in.

Yeah..right. First of all you dip he lied to you right out of the chute by saying he was single when he was not. Of course, why should someone who lies in a relationship be of any concern huh?

You people deserve all of the misery situations you mire yourselves in can give. On another note, learn how to spell and construct a proper sentence will you?

He lied about being single.
Said he is "happily married"
"not be able to talk with him"

You don't know the man! You've build up the IDEA of the perfect man in your head and gave him this other man's name.

You know what you want now, so go and try and find it. I can tell you one thing this guy isn't it.

You really like feeling bad, don't you?

Stop with all the freaking drama and find someone who isn't a liar and a cheater.

As a woman first and foremost, respect the woman you are. Once you find a way to do that, respect this man's wife as a woman. As for this man, you have boosted his ego enough and he lacks total respect for himself. I hope he can find respect for both his wife, a woman, and you, a woman. Love and respect yourself first and treat others the way you would want to be treated. Please start by forgiving and showing respect for yourself, respect his wife. No, you will not always be alone. You have to start on yourself. This to shall pass.