Male AdviceThe truth comes best from the source, however when it comes from someone else of the same gender it may feel a bit more cozy. Ladies feel free to gather all the insight from your unbiased male counterparts. Boys if you need some reassurance, your guys are here to support you just the same.
I understand that in this country there are so many people, that we do not have the same views and opinions, nor are we suppose to. However, there is so much negative talk towards a teen father nowadays. There is negative talk with a teen mother, however she is given all the resources right away with public assistance, and the father is always left to fend on his own and nobody cares at all. Who is there for this young man, that may be have trapped by another girl? The answer to this question is not"Keep your stuff in your pants."although that is a famous saying, we don't tell women that have 4 kids and on welfare to keep their legs closed! How can we help young, teen fathers who have been told that they may be a father of a child? Shouldn't the system be prepared for a minor who doesn't want anything to do with a child? Instead of kicking him in jail? The woman has choices when shes pregnant: Abortion and Adoption. The father has none. Shouldn't we make better resources for him?You can't stop teens from havings sex, its going to happen. There are many young girls running around without BIRTHCONTROL!! Why should that be? If a woman is sexually active then she should be on BIRTH CONTROL. There is no b.c for men yet, so we need to be depending on women to take it. B.c has been around since the 60s or 70s, it is now 2008, so there should be no excuse for girls that aren't on birth control after they have reached puberty! That sounds like a trap to me, if you are consciously having unprotected sex w/out b.c!! If a women unexpectedly gets pregnant, she has her choice, and if the father doesn't agree with her choice he shouldn't have to be obligated to do anything. If it takes two to tango, then y does she get to make this decision alone, even if it is her body thats not right. They are always talking about the rights the child has to the father, but they never talk about the rights the father has to the child! All it is"Pay up and shut up!"THATS NOT RIGHT.
First of all, I do say"Keep your legs closed"to teen mothers because if you are going to have sex you need to be prepared for the consequences and they are not ready! Second of all, the teen father has more choice in the matter than the girl. Yes, she has the choice of abortion or adoption but do you know how heartwrenching those 2 things can be? The teen father can up and walk away which a lot of them do! Yes, if she decides to keep the baby he will probably end up paying child support but she has to pay too! Probably more! She has to take care of that baby everyday of her life for at least 18 years. She might have to miss out on the greatest things in high school like Senior prom, school functions and extra curricular activities because she needs to be at home with the baby. The guy forks over some money and can do whatever he wants.
What better resources could he need? Unless he was the one with custody of the child, all he has to worry about is forking over cash to help pay for the child's expenses. And a baby is VERY expensive, I had two. The young man is left to fend for himself because he is not fending for an innocent, defenseless, demanding baby.
As the parent of four sons and wife for 35 years, I have heard the same comments from them when watching the talk shows.It does not seem fair does it? I am old fashion but accepting of differences. I would have been disappointed but not angry if my son had gotten a girl pregnant. I must be honest, I would have told my sons or daughter to keep their legs together. Every act of sex can produce a child. That is why one must use another form of birth control besides a condom. Boys should be given classes in child care if they are going to be a father. I have heard of men going to court to have a right to be a father when the woman has not wanted to be a mother. No one can be forced to carry a child to term but if enough time is spent in court appearances, they may be too far along to get an abortion.IF the woman chooses to have the baby, the father is expected to help with expenses. This is why boys and men must look out for themselves. If you don't want to have a child, don't have sex!If you choose to have sex, use protection every time.I'm sorry if I sound preachy but sex is not a game and being a parent isn't either. It is a major decision.
Part of me wants to agree with MRS. EVANS. But I will not..cause we are trying to be adults right.?Try to think of it this way. yes, woman have more help out there but most of the time the woman are the ones needing most of the help.It really does come down to, if you did not want to pay for the child you have (meaning men) then you should find a way to not have any.The'she trapped me'DOES NOT work in the real world. You did not want any children you would have found a way to NOT have any, hence not having to pay for any..Men forget that they have amost as much control over having children as woman do. They just forget they do..
Unwed Teen FATHERS, any male advice?
