Question about potential affair with gay male?

Celine D · #1 (**permalink**) 12-20-2008, 11:33 PM

I met a gay male at work. I'm a straight woman. We kiss, he's touched my breasts and he tells me to be patient that eventually we'll make love. We kiss quite passionately. From your experience, how much of a chance is there that he will eventually make love to me. He has been with women before in his younger days but mostly with men and identifies himself to be gay. Is there anything I can do to make him more comfortable. We do love each other deeply. It has taken him several months just to touch my breasts.

Alex K · #2 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 10:10 PM

He could be bisexual, or he could be joking and playing around with you.

One Love · #3 (**permalink**) 03-16-2009, 09:25 AM

If he is truly gay you could be setting yourself up for disappointment. I don't know any gay men that want to make love to a women.

Beach Bum · #4 (**permalink**) 03-20-2009, 10:16 AM

if he identifies himself as gay, and it took him several months just to get comfortable touching your breasts, i wouldnt count of a long term relationship here.sounds like a gay guy that is very lonely and looking for some type of friendship. before you get hurt, and you will, he will meet someone (a guy) and he will move on, i suggest you end this. you can remain friends, but the hopes of something more just isnt gona happen.

crimliarx · #5 (**permalink**) 03-25-2009, 10:00 AM

If he's taken months to touch your breasts I don't hold out much hope. The Bi guy's I know would have either blown you out coz they didn't fancy you or would have been in there like a rocket. Sorry, I honestly think you are in for a long disappointing wait.

♥American Proud♥ · #6 (**permalink**) 03-31-2009, 12:28 AM

Theres nothing you can do. If hes gay and you are a girl, youre out of luck. Why would you want to be with a gay guy anyway? I dated a guy years ago who was bisexual and his boyfriend ended up getting HIV and I thought I was going to have it, I dont, thank God, but thats a huge risk you are taking, the HIV rate among gay men is like 1 in 3 and you cant trust condoms. Dont waste your time with him!