Just engaged male, Need advice on wedding arrangements???

Brad K · #1 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 12:28 AM

I just recently became engaged, I am 24 and have never been married....I have to admit I already feeling the pressure and stress of wedding planning and I have no idea where to start...My fiance and I are planning on having the wedding in a friends back yard. We are on a tight budget as we're both planning on going to school in the fall......She has help from her family with most of the planning, but I am not really sure what my responsibilities are and how to accomplish them....I know I am in charge of tuxedoes and flowers and a few other things that I probably haven't realized yet....I would just like some advice for wedding planning and what the husband (groom) is responsible for planning, how and where do I start!!!

ckamin00 · #2 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 10:21 AM

That is great that you want to help and take the time to care. My fiance does not care about any details until the credit card comes. lol I started my wedding planning on weddingwire.com. There everything is organized and the guest list is easy to use. Most grooms are responsible for the guys tuxes and alcohol (if there is any). Flowers can be a tough one. You might want to trade something else for that job. Or try going to your local florist. They should have pictures of bouquets and arrangements that you can decide on. Depending on where you live and where she is getting her dress, most bridal shops offer discounts on the tuxes if a bridal gown is purchased within that company. Better to go there together for the tuxes or wait for her to tell you where to go. As for most decorations it is easier to work together so that you can compromise on one set item. Start watching whose wedding is it anyway or rich bride poor bride on the style network. They give you so many helpful hints.!

mommy3 · #3 (**permalink**) 03-26-2009, 12:10 AM

Everyone is different. When I got married my husband just came along for the ride. I pretty much did all of the planning because I wanted to. Some women aren't like that though, if I were you I would talk to your fiance and ask her what exactly she would like for you to do to bring your day together. I'm sure she will be happy to know that your excited about it as well. As far as where to start...just take it one thing at a time. Start with tuxedos and once you get that taken care of move onto flowers and so on. I would make a checklist and just go down the line so it doesn't get overwhelming. Good Luck and Congrats!!!!