Here is my thoughts.
1. You have to decide if you feel there is any chance of him coming back to the relationship in a positive way. If you feel their is a chance then you need to seek help in one form or another. Counceling, Religious whatever will work for you and him. If he refuses to go then you have your answer.
2. Can you support yourself without his paycheck whatever little that may be. If no then consider staying in the relationship but start taking some classes to build your skill set so when you do break out on your own you will be able to support yourself. Continuing education can also be a great way to meet other people.
3. If he does not want help and if you can support yourself OK without him. Let him go. Next time he threatens to leave, when he hands you his ring take it, offer to help him pack his bags and show him the door.
No matter what you do you have to make sure you think things all the way through before making drastic moves. Unless it truly is physically abusive. Then, just get out, get away and pick up the pieces after the fact from a safe distance. But talk to professionals as to the best way to do that as well.
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