How can I help my marriage?

Polly · #41 (**permalink**) 09-30-2010, 08:14 AM

well first of all have u2 sit and talked about everything?have u also considered counseling.just make sure u check out all areas before u even think of divorce.good luck.

Rebekah05 · #42 (**permalink**) 10-05-2010, 08:14 AM

well i give u a formula to improve........for next three months from now love him alto.....change itself a bit DAT love him but dint lose Ur importance......gift him things....say i love u to him if he be angry.......be too good n loving.....be sexy....be friendly.....tell him he got wonderful Freons....dont argue him...dint ques him...gift him thanks cards n gifts.......make food 4 him....
i am sure if he loves u he will acknowledge d lost lov 4 u in him......u have to make him acknowldg dat he loves u.......datz it....if a woman be mystry to man den man will love her forevr n b intrested in knowin her till death......
even if ur husband doesnt changes then after 3 months tell him u love him but u cant take his ignorance so u giving him time to think 4 a week and u lev home and go to odr city 4 a week........
giv him a call after a week if he changed u won him elze if he doesnt then he was never urs......so move on.....this formula will solve ur prob.....take care...all d best...i hav used this formula...

lbhietala · #43 (**permalink**) 10-08-2010, 08:14 AM

If he is willing go to marriage counseling, you might want to suggest this. Find out why he is not open with you. There could be things in his past that he does not know that made him this way. A lot of the way we are is based on things that we learn as a child. If he didn't learn how to communicate as a child and/or he has parents that think nothing of being deceitful to each other then, he might think that is how a relationship work. Our behaviors are learned and they develop our characters, which is very difficult to change, especially if we dint see a need for it. He could also not know how to communicate with you, so he is going elsewhere. Finally trust is so important in a relationship and without it there isn't much of a relationship, so if you find that you are losing yourself and you are unhappy, you might consider getting divorce. I hope I was helpful.

Kristine D · #44 (**permalink**) 10-10-2010, 08:14 AM

Make some friends or outside contacts so you can contribute more interesting conversation,over time he'll need others for it less.Good Luck!

Mikky · #45 (**permalink**) 10-15-2010, 08:14 AM

Tell him exactly how you feel. Then, ask him to go to counsel ling. If he doesn't want to go, then you know he is not willing to work at your marriage and is done. I feel terrible for you. Its not sounding too good. I think you need to get the counsel ling for yourself whether he goes or not. Good luck.