marriage? abortion? Advice.?

Just like you said it takes two to want a child and have a child. So in this case it also take two to decide about killing your baby. I know it's your body and you can do what ever you want with you body, but it's his baby too not just yours. Let me tell you that if you do this abortion without his consent it will bring problems in your marriage and you don't want that. Think about it. Do just think once and say what the hell I already have 2 so I'll just get over with this one. The baby your carrying inside of you is not an object. The baby is another human being. I think you shouldn't have made an appointment without talking to him in a right way. If you really don't want the baby, you can give the baby up for adoption. There are lots of families out there that can't have kids and your one of those that can and just decide to kill your baby. Maybe you can just say that if by the time you don't want the baby anymore then put it up for adoption and who know maybe you'll learn to love your baby and keep him/her. Don't regret it for the rest of your life.

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years on the 24Th of this month. I am pregnant with our first child and when I found out I started to cry. I really did not want a baby at this time since we are not financially stable, he's not with me at this moment, I'm living with my mom and can't seem to get a job, but never in my mind did I think about getting an abortion. We took this like adults and we are very happy about this pregnancy and can't wait to have our baby girl in our arms. So please think about it. Don't just make the decision on your own. It's not just up to you, it's up to your husband as well.

OK I am really getting aggravated with "ITS YOUR BODY" thing. That baby is IN your body, but is NOT your body. I think you should not have an abortion. I agree with what the second person wrote, I don't even see how you can have kids also and think about killing your unborn child. Yeah your husband has insecurity issues. But I have a few friends with husbands who are deployed and their wives are big tramps. I can see why he is insecure. I am pregnant with our 3rd, me and my husband weren't really preventing it, but we weren't trying for a baby either. I just got laid off at work, and just because we don't have 2 incomes and can't really afford a lot right now I'm not going off to having an abortion because 'its whats best for now'. I believe things happen for a reason, and everything will turn out fine. Babies are a blessing I don't see how you can even think of killing your baby. You are married, and once you took that vow its not about what YOU want anymore its what God wants for you and your husband.

You might not be ready and u might be leaving him but don't do that to that child if your not ready for the child give it up for adoption don't kill it and yes i know u don't want to tell him but i can tell you one thing it is better for you to put the baby up for adoption instead of killing it 1 is because abortion is murder 2 he will probably go easier on u CZ the baby is still alive 3 if you put the baby up for open adoption then u and him will still be able to see the baby and be able to get the baby back wen you are ready but Pl Wat ever you do don't kill your baby that's killing your 2 kids now it isn't right put the baby up for adoption it just isn't right for you to kill a child if you did not want this to happen you should have been on birth control it isn't the baby's fault so let it live it has a reason to live as much as you do. so take me advice I'm 14 years old and has been in the same situation as you are in now i am experienced and i love my daughter more then ever i get to see her wen i want to and she knows that I'm her mother and i will take her to live with me wen I'm 18 trust me it is worth is so Pl dint kill your child it deserves to live

this is a tough one. you basically already know what you did and what you should have done to prevent it from happening in the first place.
personally, i am for abortions but this is a different issue somewhat.
i had an abortion when i was 19. i was still in college, didn't want to be with that guy forever cause he was an a$$, and really wasn't an adult myself yet. it was definitely the right choice for me and i didn't have any regrets. and i wasn't depressed after wards either.
the thing with you is that you are married. i understand that you both have a child from a previous relationship but this could actually be a good thing. i think you should have it if you can afford it and have support from your family. you may regret it later. but it is your choice and definitely something to think about. good luck, sweetie.