group sex in a marriage...my friend needs your help cause i dunno what to tell her!?

[Hayden Derk] · #1 (**permalink**) 06-26-2010, 07:17 PM

OK here's the thing. my friend and her hubby have been married for 3 years but some weeks ago he suggested that they go to sex clubs or orgies and stuff just to spice up the sex life and that it's OK since they are married and giving each other permission. she doesn't know what to do if God will be mad or smitingnand asked me for advice. here's the thing tho they've been married for ONLY 3 years, isn't that Kinna too soon to spice up the sex life? like if they agree to do it it's not cheating or adultery but something just doesn't fit. what do you think, I'm not the one in the posiiotn but i'm confused as hell!!!

sonofEatonWrite · #2 (**permalink**) 06-28-2010, 07:17 PM

interesting.......doomed to fail!!

Ana A · #3 (**permalink**) 06-30-2010, 07:17 PM

It's their choice. If they both like do spice up their sex life, let them do it. It's maybe too soon because they can't even make a decision.

itspink22@sbcglobal.net · #4 (**permalink**) 07-02-2010, 07:17 PM

Tell her to go with her gut, she's married and you can't make decisions for her. As far as God not being or being mad at her well that's between her and God, and she need to figure this out for herself.

Kasper · #5 (**permalink**) 07-03-2010, 07:17 PM

Tell her she is stupid if she does it and doesn't want to and tell her to tell her husband that she doesn't want to go and she doesn't want him to go. If he does go then he just wants to cheat on her. then she will know what to do from there.

john l · #6 (**permalink**) 07-08-2010, 07:17 PM

Spice is nice, but it doesn't require additional partners. Anything other than the two of them is adultery, make no mistake.

Why would she give him permission, given that the risk of STD infection is extremely high? why would she give him permission considering that they can spice it up at home?

Consider this.... I have been married for a total of 13 years, and not once have I suggested spicing it up this way. Nor will I.

fojimo · #7 (**permalink**) 07-09-2010, 07:17 PM

so---why be married? oh the divorce comes after they sleep with other people.

lenieexo · #8 (**permalink**) 07-10-2010, 07:17 PM

I don't have much (any, actually) experience with those types of places, but it always seems to me that people say they're OK with it and then regret it after wards. I think it takes a special kind of mentality not to be perturbed by those types of places.
So, I'd suggest against it. It DOES seem like 3 years is too soon to be trying something as "drastic" as that, but that's just my biased opinion. However, I think 99% of the time places like that only lead to MORE stress in a marriage rather than less.
(Again, this is just my opinion- I have no facts to back any of this up).

askandasamy · #9 (**permalink**) 07-15-2010, 07:17 PM

wow.

i can smell the marriage failing from here.

mindy s · #10 (**permalink**) 07-16-2010, 07:17 PM

i think if you go to group sex that can only mean 1 thing the marriage is going downhill, and forget about god getting mad or something its the two of you getting mad to each other that going to happen.DON'T DO IT~ GO TO MARRIAGE COUNSELOR!

Lisa P · #11 (**permalink**) 07-20-2010, 07:17 PM

Well either he's gonna do it with her or with someone else....
Bottom line.....I think it's alright if they're married and they both agree....and yeah it will definitely spice up the marriage......

good luck

phantommoviefan · #12 (**permalink**) 07-22-2010, 07:17 PM

i say do it it will be fun and a good experience

LIFE IS GOOD · #13 (**permalink**) 07-27-2010, 07:17 PM

That will destroy their marriage!

God intended for sex to be between a husband and wife.

Hebrews 13:4 ~ Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Shelley T · #14 (**permalink**) 07-29-2010, 07:17 PM

Even freedom has limits....Fantasy and Reality are cousins not spouses. When the two are together....Disappointment is conceived....Tell your friends that it sounds very erotic but experiencing it may disappoint you to such length that you will not only detest orgy but yourselves and each other.....be your own judge....

Saffron · #15 (**permalink**) 08-02-2010, 07:17 PM

If you are not involved then stay the hell out of their mess.

wil drewry · #16 (**permalink**) 08-05-2010, 07:17 PM

This is not a good idea and will end in divorce! Once they go out and do this the wife will always think that the husband enjoyed the other women more than her and it will be nothing but chaos!!! She should leave him now!!! He's already thinking about other woman after 3 yrs...and he doesn't care about his wife sleeping with other men nothing is sacred to him! It's time to move on and move out and find someone else someone better... the guys probably a loser anyway!!!

Feline05 · #17 (**permalink**) 08-06-2010, 07:17 PM

well....to each his own...and their own...and everyone Else's! AC! if she agrees....does she know what she will haft witness and possibly do herself? ask her to visualize that...then decide. seems he wants his cake and eat it too....can she have her cupcake and eat it too and be outwith that?

mX2007 · #18 (**permalink**) 08-08-2010, 07:17 PM

HE suggested??...........hm mm.........is he already cheating on her, and wanting to have some extra playmates to lessen the guilt???

She needs to trust herself and her feelings.......WOMAN STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!

Many blessings!

Ryan G · #19 (**permalink**) 08-12-2010, 07:17 PM

It will destroy their marriage and each other of they go through with it. A marriage is between "ONLY" between them two. There's should be no throed party involved.

NORMA B · #20 (**permalink**) 08-13-2010, 07:17 PM

DON'T DO IT!!!!! It is adultery. Because if you have sex outside of your marriage it's adultery, and God hates Adultery. God created sex to be between a husband and wife, not a man and another mans wife. They may not think it's cheating but it is.

There are other ways that they can spice things up that don't involve having sex with others than each other.

Just don't do it, it may seem great as a fantasy, I know from experience, that after trying it, it only left me wanting more, and it never satisfied me.