I am scared of marriage or getting married....help?

That is why you choose carefully,everybody changes,married or not,you got to find somebody that's more than the superficial things of life.Once you do find that someone,realize that marriage isn't an institution to take lightly,you have to work hard at it,and not scream foul at any fight(because there will be quarrels)I married at a young age and even though there are days that I wish I wasn't married to her(as she I'm sure feels the same way) we deal with it.and I dint think threes a day that goes by that I,m not grateful shes with me.You need to realize the phrase:for better or worse,for richer or poorer.But if its too abusive and I do realize there are people like that,that's when this doesn't apply.Anything worth something will take sacrifice,and if you go into marriage with this in mind,along with someone else whom thinks this way,the good should outweigh the bad

Sweety, some do work out. We just don't hear about them, cause their not news until the 50Th wedding anniversary!!

Just because you date, doesn't mean you have to "marry".

Geez, if this really is a fear in your life, Amby you should consider becoming a nun. ( But you have to watch the priest there too. They like to rape the nun's).

If you are not ready for marriage then you are not ready. Nothing wrong with that. However you should go out and have fun and if that special someone comes around get to know him really well before you con cider marrying him. Not all men are abusive there are lots of good guys out there in fact I have one that is not abusive.

The biggest thing to hold on to is that you need to know the guy well. There are a lot of resources that can help you with this. My wife and I used a book called "101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged" by H. Norman Wright and Gary Oliver. I have recommended this as a tool to all of my friends who are looking at a relationship to go further. This is a "Christian" book, however, even if you are not a person of faith, it will serve as a VITAL tool for communication. It allows the book to ask deep and probing questions that might be difficult for either of you to bring up yourselves, but the book does it for you. It goes from questions like "How many kids would you like to have?" to "What are five bad habits you have? Are you willing to change those habits? Are you willing to have assistance in changing any of those habits?" Armed with a resource like this, you will find that if a guy is willing to go through that process and be truthful about his answers, you'll know if the guys is going to turn out to be abusive. You can find the book at: http://www.amazon.com/Questions-Before-Engaged-Wright-Oliver/dp/0736913947

hey i dint mean to be rude and I'm sorry if comes across that way its honestly not mean it anyway

Don't go into a relationship thinking that it will end up in marriage, I've had several serious boyfriends and its my current one that marriage has actually been seriously discussed.

Not all guys are violent, there are a few but you'll know long before marriage is on the cards!!

When you find the guy that you want to marry communication is a main point, it's worth doing a marriage prep course

WNW.marriagecourse.org

i think will tell you about it, I'm starting it on Thursday so if you wanna know what its like drop me an email.

i dint really know what else to write but if you have any questions more on what I've said drop me an email TNFan

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