I am scared of marriage or getting married....help?

husbands just suffer in silence.
Most people marry lightly on a whim, if you meet a really nice guy you will know unless you want to die a dried out old spinster over irrational fear.
Marry an effeminate kind of male then you can be safer not some loudmouth as_hole.

I married a ketchup baroness, and nothing happened to me....

If you don't take a chance, that the guy might actually NOT be an abuser, if you don't take that chance, then you die alone, a coward...

Avoid the "bad boy" type, and you're less likely to have this problem. Most people want this type because they are exciting, but there's a bad side to it too.

If I were you I would talk to a counselor about this. You could have a reason for having this fear and some counseling will help you. But, your fear is a real one. I was married twice both times to "nice" guys who ended up not so nice. So, your fear is real and I'm not saying it's bad but, there are good guys out there. So, if I were you I would talk to a counselor and they can help you Thur it.

It's okay. You just aren't ready for marriage. Just accept that right now in your life that is something that you are not prepared for and that you are fine with not wanting that right now.

If/when the time is right, you will know.

Take it one day at a time, one guy at a time. I was abused by my ex. It was horrible, but I dint hate or fear all men. You have to put your trust in the Lord that He will protect you. Not everyman is abusive.

All marriages are not like that. What kind of men do you date to think that they would beat you when you get married?

trust your instincts and bail quick if you suspect your with a looser.

First of all don't be afraid to date, just don't live with the person that you are dating. Save money so you can support yourself if you happen to get married and it goes sour. Before you marry someone date them for at least 10 years and live with them for 5 years before you get married. You don't even have to get married these days. You can also take self-defense classes to protect yourself from abuse.

Don't be scared....most of those marriages continue on because the wife never takes action...many times she just sticks around when she should get the heck out of there. You seem like an intelligent girl...I don't think you would stay in a situation like that. Fyi, not all guys are like that...

I always go by that quote...I forget who its by...its better to love and give it your best shot than to never love at all...something like that

i am 27 years old i have known my husband sense Jr. high we have been together for 4 years and married for little over a year and i am very happy he is a good man i think before you get married its important you know the person you are marring and just be careful don't rush it and everything will be alright

Being scared of marriage is a natural thing and understandingly so. When you meet a new guy and things are going really good, then you should meet his parents. If they seem happy and the guy had a good upbringing, then more than likely, he will be a fine husband. Remember, the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree.

You could date. A lot of men don't want to get married. Find a divorced man. Chances are he's in no hurry to remarry.

Although this behavior is often reported in the news there are many normal men and relationships that are not reported. It's like youth today, you only hear of the bad ones not the good as this doesn't sell in the media. Have faith and confidence that you will meet a regular fella and hopefully you will meet your soul mate. Fear of the unknown is an awful thing to allow to run our lives. Don't allow this fear to keep you from gaining a relationship and believe in your instincts regarding how a guy may treat you, but be realistic and not a dreamer.

just cool it and stay single for a while it will pas

dint not date because of what could happen,,no one says you have to go on a date and then get wed without really knowing him so,,get to know someone before you discuss moving the relationship on to the next level,keep within your comfort zone and just take steps as they come up,,if you are not ready,,have a word with yourself about exactly what you think is going on and go from there,,could it be because he does things you dint like,,say something then,,is it because he is moving too fast,,cool it then,,you do have equal say in any relationship you have so use our voice but dint cut off your nose to spite your face,,you could miss someone special.

move the hell out of Arkansas