My marriage is in trouble, Help....?

You have two Children, how can you pack your bags, and leave your two Children/ You gave birth to them....
You and your Husband, argue 24/7...does no one go out to work.?
Maybe you should get up in mornings get ready, take your Children out to park/whatever,.....and when Hubby at home,take time to plan the weekends so you have fun together with your Children. they are growing up listening to this arguing... it is not fair on the Children, or you or your Husband.I think maybe you both Harbinab in er' ... Summer is here nearly, start living life, with your husband and your two Children... If money is scarce, not everything costs money the parks are free, woods are great.. and maybe get a train to beech, have Fun time with your Family.

Communication is key. You should not get so upset to the point of tears and/or rage and/or threatening to break up your home. How can a man love a woman who could consider leaving him over an argument? Seems as though you two need some marriage counseling. If he refuses, then you should find some help for yourself and your family's sake. I'll pray for your family too. Think positive thoughts, tell him you love him and be serious about making it work.

I feel for you sweetie - stress and life can certainly take it's toll on a young couple with young children. Please give yourselves a break from the fighting about all the little stuff - it is NOT important that the laundry is piling up and that dinner burnt because your really not the best cook and that he's always leaving the toilet seat up. What is important is that you have two children counting on both of you to show them how to grow and live a wonderful life full of experiences.

You know you love this man - so when you have even the smallest opportunity - look him in the eye, tell him you love him, say I know we are having difficulty right now, but if we were not together to work on it together, I would be lost.

Mean what you say, the next time a agreement begins to arise - recognize that tempers are flaring - realize that your raising your voices at each other - the one person who you swore to respect and cherish 7 I know it's hard - but make sure you NEVER say something mean that cannot be taken back.

Try counseling, even if you start by going yourself just to have some kind of support to vent your own frustrations and learn how to cope with things. Two years is a very short time, but right now life is hard for so many people. Your not alone!

If you want to vent and maybe get some advice - email me - till then - your in my prayers!

Every marriage hits high points (smiles/hello?s/I love you?s ? everything great), and low points (arguing, bickering, not speaking, separate beds).

The biggest problem is lack of communication. You expect things one way, he expects those same things another way. You both cannot have it your own way and both be happy. You need to come to a compromise ? a middle agreement. You give a little and take a little. He does the same. You don?t get everything your way ? only 1/2 of it.

You need to communicate and get everything out in the open, even though it will hurt you both, once you start venting your hidden frustrations. Once the problems and issues are on the surface, it is now a level playing field. Come to an agreement to first address all of the issues and write them down in a list. Next, discuss each one individually and come to a mutual compromise (you must both be happy with the agreed compromise). ALSO!!!! You have to set guidelines for the discussion ? no yelling, screaming, silent treatment, walking out, name calling, be-tittling, childish stuff, etc.) Your adults, so act like adults.

How to do it ? 3 ways:

1> Do it yourselves (recommended). Go out and have a relaxing meal with the understanding that no problems are to be discussed during dinner. Enjoy the meal. Go home (kids away for the night ? this will take a while) and start making compromises.

2> Get a mediator. Find someone (friend/relative) you both like and trust and who will be honest and impartial. They need to be trusted to hear your personal issues, as they will know everything. This person will not reveal your issues to anyone (not either of you two unless both are present). It like a marriage councilor without the high price tag.

3> Seek a professional marriage councilor. You can tell them anything and everything and they will be the impartial mediator, for a hefty price.

Marriage is a life-long job. You actually have to work at it full time. You have to give and take and communicate. If you are both unwilling to do all three together, your doomed. Without knowing the specifics, it?s hard to give solid advice.

Before you call it quits, try all three before you sign the divorce papers. If it?s that bad, how much more could you possibly stand to lose by trying?

Best of luck