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My husband and I have only been married for 2 years(with 2 kids)the only thing we do is argue all the time. 2 days ago we argued and I packed my things to go but ended up not going. I was thinking " I love this man, and I could not live without him". Today we argued again and I cried like I always do. I can not take the roller coaster emotions this marriage is giving me, even though I love this man, what should I do? Is this normal?Is this is what marriage all about? Maybe we are not ready for this (young married couple) Help..
What in heck are you arguing about anyway? If you are having roller coaster emotions you had better have a medical checkup as something may be out of whack with your body chemistry.
No it is not normal. Arguments every once in awhile do happen but sounds like this is a daily thing for you. It sounds like you love him and would like to work it out. I suggest marriage counseling for both of you.
No, it is not normal to argue like that. Marriages have ups and downs but it sounds like you are having more bad times than good. If you love you husband you guys should try counseling. it can help. If things don't get better maybe it is time to move on. You said you were young, do you want to waste years of your life arguing and being sad? Do you really love your husband or do you love the idea of being married? having a family?
When he does or says something that gets to you, take a deep breath and don't let yourself react until you have calmed down a bit. We all have our buttons and our mate knows which ones to push. Don't allow that and things won't get to the point of you packing your bags.
Too young and kids too soon. Marriage is very stressful as it is and with those other two things combined its hard. Try getting a babysitter once in awhile or a nanny to help around the house. It may relieve some stress you are feeling and less tent ion around the house.
It is incredibly difficult to be a newly married. There are so many adjustments to make. Add a couple of kids to the mix and it's going to add more stress.
Don't give up on your marriage. Get some counseling. Sometimes it's as simple as learning "how" to fight. Find a counselor and give it your best. Good luck
Having two kids in two years is rough. You can get through it.
If you want to. It's hard the kids drain your energy. But deep down in there is the love you had to marry right? Why did you get married ? Think about those things.
Make some time for yourselves. Dinner after the kids go to bed.
Hire a sitter even once a month for two hours -
get some girl friends in a play group -
TALK - and make sure you get a sense of humor. Why would you leave - think about that - how would you raise your kids - what is it that makes you mad if he nags change?
My husband used to "freak" if he'd come home to a messy house. I try hard to respect that. I hate he never finishes a project - he knows it, and will eventually.
Money... ? Always will be an issue.
If you were out of line do something he likes. If he was make sure he knows it. ;O)
No its not normal and bad for the kids. I truly believe in just the couple getting away for a little while if you can. Time away for a long weekend or something without the kids. So the two of you can rekindle the flame. Its tough with kids but every married couple need to find alone time and not just in the bedroom. You will get to know each other again. When the arguing starts just leave the room and take a walk outside. No matter how hard it is "leave". He will see you are fed up with it.
Hi, I'm sorry that you are going through a difficult time in your marriage, I once was married and its going exactly like yours is going... so I told my husband, that I didn't like the arguing and fighting all the time, and I just asked him, did he love me, he said no, and I left and filed for a divorce... but you need to ask him, why is he doing this to you, why are there so many problems in the relationship, if he wants a divorce, ask him does he even care that there are two children in this marriage as well... I would just politely sit down and talk to him calmly, don't scream and yell it makes things alto worse... hope I helped you...
Arguing all the time is not normal for a marriage. It is normal to have disagreements, however, in a healthy relationship you need to sit down and discus exactly what the problems are. Fighting like that is not good with children that will teach them that fighting all the time is what marriage is all about. The children should always be your top priority as a family. You and your husband need to think about them first and consider what your actions may be doing to them. You need to sit down and figure out what is causing you to fight all the time, then attempt to figure out what is needed to be done in order to put an end to it. Good luck.
That is what is wrong with marriages today. What you need to do is to actually take the time to sit down and talk with him. Have a heart to heart. Tell him how you feel and how he makes you fee. Let him do the same. It works. You just both have to try. If you have to, leave for a couple of days to have a break. This will be an eye-opener for him.
First of all you guys need to take time for the two of you. Not with the family nor with the kids. Seems as if you guys having been moving quit fast which sometimes develops problems within the marriage. He may feel a little threatened by the kids. Meaning he's not getting the attention as he did before also he maybe a little overwhelmed b/c of family life happening to fast. Take a vacation or a few days together without the kids to enjoy one another. You can re spark the thing that got you together. If you don't I'm sure you will be through with the fighting in just a matter of time. You need to continue to take this time alone with each other too. Don't end it here. You will be together and can work the issues out when stress of job and family life are pressuring you.
You need to go to a good marriage councilor and learn how to communicate!!
I wouldn't say it is normal, but it isn't uncommon either. The stress of a new marriage, 2 kids and everyday life can get to be overwhelming and we usually release that stress on the ones we love the most. You both need to understand how damaging words can be!! Don't EVER say anything to him out of anger that you don't really mean!! He will remember it forever and it will damage your relationship! Sorry doesn't always cut it! You may regret saying it, you may not even mean what you say, but if you let it come out of your mouth, he will hear it and remember it!!
You seriously need to find a councilor. Don't give up! If you love him and he loves you, there is hope!! If you can't afford counseling, go to your church or your employer and ask them if they can help!
In the meantime, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!"
You already have kids and marriage is stressful enough without them. I have been where you are and personally I don't think you all are spiritually connected because if you were, then the arguments wouldn't be so rare and if you packed your bags, then you know what you want to do anyway. Follow your women's intuition for it is always right. You can love him all day long but if he is doing and saying hurtful things to make you cry, its time to go. Good Luck to you
This story sounds just like my friends, she's been married 2 years and they have one baby and they argue every single day. So they have tried a trial separation and so far it has helped them to see things in a different light. They are also going to start going to counseling.
Have you both considered material counseling? Its pretty normal to have arguments in a marriage and the first 3 years of marriage are the hardest, if you can get through those then you guys will be fine. God Bless~
Every relationship needs a Lil arguing. but this sounds like you need to think about what your arguing about. What is making you guys argue, whats the root of it. is it something he said, something he did or didn't react to, did he not do the dishes, what is it? cause there may be an underlying issue that either is so simple to fix or something really hard, but by identifying that would make it easier. What triggered the fight. You may be young for the stereo typical item people think, but as long when you fight you compromise or come to an agreement, you ll be good. Whatever you do, try your best not to go to bed mad. you ll never have a good morning.
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