Need Christian advice for marriage problems!?

You are one flesh.

Therefore the rest of your body (your husband) must be let in on the problem.

Simply enough, communicate, talk to each other.

You may find that its not about the actual sex, but about what goes on in your everyday life.

Women need to be romanced, not just with poems, flowers, notes, and dinners out. They need to be romanced by a soft touch that does not lead directly to the bedroom. They need to be romanced by soft spoken words. They need to be romanced by a special deed done just for them, meaning helping with a chore that is yours alone, but he just did it for you without asking or being told.

These things soften a woman's heart and prepares her to submit to her husbands desires.

Your husband will not automatically understand these things. He is hardwired, all he needs to do is see you naked, or imagine you naked.

You do not understand how your husband could be aroused with seemingly no romance.

We are different, and we must learn these differences and accommodate them within our marriages.

I know that even knowing all this stuff, I am still utterly amazed that after an argument or a mean word said between us, my husband can still be "in the mood" for sex.

Lastly and most importantly, After you have communicated (talked ) take time out to pray together as a married one flesh couple, for understanding of each others thoughts and minds.

Two great sources who deal with issues such as this and both have radio call-in shows, sell books and have a Christian-like perspective.

WNW.drlaura.com
WNW.fhu.com

Dr Laura would ask you how long you expect to keep that job if you're not doing it, and remind you how delicious it used to be.

Roy Masters would home in on resentment, either toward husband, situation, or childhood.

I suspect Dr Laura would per scribe jumping husband as he comes in the door every day for a week. Roy would offer a free mental exercise which has a homeopathic effect of bringing to the surface past wrong reactions to stress so you can see them in a new light and then they're gone and you are whole.

I suppose you have considered that probably your husband is being destroyed by your emotional problems? Us guys take these things very seriously.

You don't have to be a christian (as such) to answer this question. You are young and are not used to the rig ours of marriage (obviously) and have taken a very serious step in which your decisions affect some-one else life. This can be a scary thing in one so young. Try self meditation and lots of exercises. Pick up your diet and be patient with yourself. Ask your husband for patience also and this to will pass. Don't push yourself or it will get worse. If he is unwilling to wait and help you through this, then his Christianity is out the window. Do not judge yourself or your marriage on this one little hiccup. He will go through it, also at some stage and then how will you handle it? "Love thyself" and it will make for a stronger person and better christian.

why do you need christian advice. that kind of stuff happens to people all the time. if you had a kid, its typical for a woman to lose their sex drive. threes drugs and therapy for it. I hate to tell you, but if you leave it to religion, you are probably gonna end up in a divorce. science works, no matter what some people like to believe.

Discuss it with your husband and together try to look for ways on how to solve it by buying books which deals with frigidity, christian books related to marriage and/or consult a doctor ( maybe your ob-Gene) to help you medically ...Pray hard that your husband would be patient and understanding enough to wait until such time that you can engage in sex actively with him again....God Bless!!!!

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a woman not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. My dear, you and your husband must turn that fire again, but he has to understand that you married for the long run, you have a long life in from of you and sex is not all in the matrimony. I don't know if hi is loving or romantic. I'm Latin from Puerto Rico and for us to keep our passion we leave love notes on the pillow, called during the day as when we were going out and you still going out, it hasn't change. Some times no sex is good, some times to watch TV without thinking that at the end of the movie or show you have to perform. The love making is not a job nor part of the daily routing. Sit down and talk about your feelings. Be happy and loving as you used to be. Love you and good luck.