Need Christian advice for marriage problems!?

can I say this

first marriage problem

your 20 and your married. You dint even know what a sex drive is at 20 much less what you will or wont do eventually. Then you will turn 26 and everything will change this is why i want to understand I would never do a woman so young that way. Tie her down give her a kid at 20 that's just wrong

my opinion

get pills to make u have ah drive are try new things in DA bedroom

yeah, wt? I can't find a decent woman for the life of me and you're complaining about sex drive at 20?

lily dint be silly, take a week end out only the two of you.
remember old times and fall in love again

are you on the pill?.... that severely drops your sex drive and is pr oven to.

does your husband still attract you? (did he gain weight or does he have facial hair you cant stand.... does he smell?) all these things can drop your sex drive.

Try refocusing your relationship on Jesus, and make sure the reason you are together is to bring glory to His name. Without God, anything is meaningless... Try rebuilding the love that you and your husband obviously have for each other, by actively loving him.

Try reading the 5 Love Languages, as well as spending time in couples small groups with your church.

Read the Bible, Pray, Worship, Obey, and Repent.

Maybe you need more romance, maybe dietary supplements would help. I'm in my 40s and my own drive was lacking but I take certain minerals now (I'd tell you, but they're for males), and it's come back. They took about 8 weeks to kick in. Maybe there is something equivalent for women. Might check with GNC.

well like how you are a christian you should seek council from your elder in the church or any mature christian there. Maybe you are working too hard in have sex rather than let the moment present itself. Try going out and spending a weekend at a hotel or go to the beach, take time for just the both of you. Do not rush anything OK. Continue preying too.

well, you need to (and he needs to) realize that he married you cause he loves you, with or without sex, right?.

You could see a counselor/psychologist and see if they can come up with any reason. .

Also, I think that you should participate in your wifely duties even if you don't have the desire (at least occasionally), since that's part of what is expected in marriage. At some point soon, perhaps you can figure out why you have a lack of desire and it will all be good. . .

It could be changes in your hormones. Have yourself checked out by your doctor and share this problem with your husband. You can even bring your husband with you so you can seek out help for this together. This will keep you both strong as long as the both of you are handling it as a couple and not keeping the problem to yourself.. i will pray for you.

Father,
I lift up this couple to you for your healing touch to be placed upon this wife. Please help her and allow her to enjoy the pleasures that you intended her and her husband to share with each other. Fill both of their hearts with the peace and contentment that can only come from you. I thank you for a new beginning for the both of these people. In the precious name of Jesus, amen

okay, this may not be the "christian" advice you want, but hear goes.

ask yourself these questions, are you on birth control (it is known to decrease sexual drive) have you gained any weight, (not being comfortable with yourself can cause you to lose your sex drive) what about your diet? are you eating plenty of healthy foods? you'd be so surprised on the amount of bad foods that block your sex drive. and last of all, go see your doctor. sometimes your body is lacking a natural hormone that increases sexual drive. Be open about it. and talk with your husband. never block him out. he's there to help you.

Sex counseling/Christian marital counseling and possibly medical intervention i.e. hormones. and pray????

Someone wrote: "You dint even know what a sex drive is at 20 "

Huh?

Anyhow, have you considered consulting a doctor?

Sounds more like a medical problem - either physical or psychological and it's not uncommon, so don't stress over it. Hormones can fluctuate and put things out of balance.

Also, as Christians, make sure the soul is fully on Christ and filled with Christ and thank him for the relationship he has given you together, we don't often thank Christ for the sexual relationship we have, but we should, and as you continue to long after the filling of Christ in your soul it will push out the things that are hindering the needs that are seemingly unmet in the marriage.

Also, WNW.family.org has great resources for these very issues and is worth checking into, and if you can't afford the resources, then when you go to check out put a 0 in the donation or total line, and you'll still receive the materials.

Better to have the open communication and solve the problem now than to continue to let it build.

First you should take a list of any and all melds, herbs and what you eat on a daily basis to your OB/GYN. He/she can look at what goes into your body biz most of the time a lack of sex drive is from something like that. also many chronic diseases cause lack of sexual desires and so it really starts at your OB/GYN or regular MD.

There is actually a pill you can find in the Health Food store that can help with this problem. Also watch your diet, some foods cause you to feel ugh. if you know what I mean.

You are normal. While the world is always talking about "women's sex drives," it is a myth and a woman does not have the same sort of feelings that a man does unless she has become masculine, altered in some way or perhaps has consumed a lot of alcohol. Many men don't want to believe that, but they're not very bright.

For a woman it has mostly to do with having children and accommodating the need of your husband because you love him. If you feel that you don't want to be near him and have sex at all, then it could be another problem, but otherwise what I've said is correct.

Don't feel bad, It's very common. Many women are just not that into sex. It doesn't really change. You are just one of those people.

Hopefully both you and your husband knew this before you got married and he knew what he was signing up for. Religious guys tend to be better at coping with this. Good luck.