How can saving sex for marriage help your relationship?

People who wait until marriage for sex have a higher divorce rate.

It's actually not. I think I read somewhere that relationships tend to be flawed when the couple wait until marriage for sex. Don't quote me on this, though.

It helps the church to manipulate you.

Blessed be, child.

Just let him tap that ass and everyone will be happy. Although I disapprove of birth control, so be prepared for children.

It doesn't really do anything for your relationship. It just means you wait to have sex because that's what the bible says.

It doesn't.

because Christians don't approve. it's actually fine, if u wait til marriage and find out he's impotent or just completely can't do it for ya, there goes a giant piece of the relationship, but too bad for you

It can't help at all and probably will do you harm. You may want to think of yourself as God's child, which is FINE, but you are also an animal, and animals have instinctual preferences that YOU CAN'T GET AROUND.

If he values you, he'll wait until after marriage. If doesn't want to wait, send him on his way; he only wants to use you.

Think of it this way: If someone gave you a gift and told you not to open it until a later date because it would be more surprising and enjoyable that way, what would you do? Would you disappoint your friend and open it early, spoiling the surprise? Or would you wait? Besides, why be like 99% of the population by doing what is "popular"? Why be like everyone else? Be different.

sex is a good thing, it sounds like you have a stable caring relationship, its good for both of you

If your boyfriend is not a Christian, I don't know that it will help your relationship. It should help your self-esteem and it should raise his respect for you (and if it does, that is a very good thing for your relationship).

Lots of guys still differentiate between a woman "worth marrying" and a woman who is good only for sex. You can be sure that a guy who sticks with you even though you don't "put out" has not placed you in that second category.

Jim, http://www.bible-reviews.com/

Beleive me, finding out AFTER your married to someone that you are sexually incompatible is a mistake. And probably accounts for the reason that the highest rate of divorce is among born-again Christians, particularly Baptists.

http://www.sullivan-county.com/bush/divorce.htm
http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm


My husband and I have been married for 20 years as of August 18Th. We had sex before marriage and lived together for two years before marriage. You don't know someone until you live with them and share a bed, finances and so forth.

Also, 96% of all Americans have sex before marriage, (and part of that 4% is arranged marriages) so those telling you to wait are not virgins themselves.
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20061220/premarital-sex-the-norm-in-america

because it allows you to base a relationship on something more substantial than the physical

In a christian marriage two believers become ONE in both flesh and spirit and then they bear and raise godly children for God's glory. It is IMPOSSIBLE to be ONE with multiple people!

Save yourself for marriage so you can truly be ONE with your husband!

Mal 2:15 Didn't the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard yourself; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.

The only relationship it will help is the one with the divorce attorney.

For one, if he truly loves you he would wait and understand your decision
If you wait- your less likely to get STDs or have an unwanted pregnancy
Lastly, the bible says sustain from fornication (having sex and not being married)

they don't know the science behind the commandment which is understandable most preachers wont hit on this topic because it might inter fear will the collection plate so here is the real reason: when a Mann and woman have sexual congress as the sperm is introduced into your body a chemical reaction takes place in the sperm is a immune inhibitor to allow the sperm to fertilize the egg when the sperm comes in Contact with the woman's antibodies it sets up a war until the body recognizes the sperm usually taking about 6 weeks to complete. multiple partners sets up a continual battleground inside your body that can culminate the HOV virus along with other problems including yeast infections and a weakened immune system and in addition to that when you have relations with your partner there are chemical triggers that emotionally bond you to that man not allowing you the time to consider if in fact he is Mr. right or Mr right now