What do you think of all this "DUMP THEM" advice on Marriage and Divorce questions?

Many 'answerer's' do not actually read the questions posted with any level of comprehension. Invariably, they use their own myopic vision of life and love to respond. The 'dump them' advice is a knee jerk reaction to earn two points, not an actual assessment of the situation.

no I dint think they are married. there alto of teenagers and young people who are not married and probably never had a serious relationship who come to this section and give out advice. I say to these people stay out please.

Yes, we have become a disposable society. Marriage is hard work and most people are not willing to put in the effort to keep it going. Just like anything in life, it is far easier to quit than to persevere.

OHHHHH you hit the nail in the head! I was just talking to my husband about his a few days ago. Like yesterday a woman posted a question about getting a divorce or painting a car!!! Granted the husband wanted to spend something like 10K, but still come on now!

No one takes marriage or long term relationships seriously anymore. Everyone is in this mind set that if it doesn't work I'll just get a divorce.... WHAT!

You are totally right! People are just so lazy these days they just don't want to try.

I don't think it matters if one has been married 50+ years or has never been married and never plans to: If someone is going to give bad advice in your example above it means one of two things to me 1) they are just being trolls, or 2) they haven't the understanding, common sense or intelligence to answer the question. I'm not necessarily insulting #2, I'm just saying some people can't think outside of the box and some can't see the big picture.

I personally don't believe in divorce, from a husband, friend, family member, pet etc etc. If you love someone and they love you as they say "If there is a will there is a way". If we learn to grow, humble ourselves, compromise, share, keep open clear lines of communication, trust, respect ad be basic all around descent people we can do just that. They also say "We never said it was going to be easy!"

Nice question.
Cheers

I completely agree.
That is the reason that the statistics right now are for divorce is 50% of marriages.
If people actually believed what they say when they got married and had the respect for marriage, there would be a lot less answers saying "dump them"

Dump them is not always the answer, people don't take marriage and their vows seriously enough. It is to easy to get divorced, I personally think their should be relationship classes that you have to attend and I think it should cost couples a lot more to get a divorce so people won't be quick to throw that threat out there all the time. Communication is key to all relationships and if you can't communicate then don't get married to begin with. Everyone has arguments but you need to talk them out and come to a resolution that suits both parties and always keep it respectful (no name calling). With a little work and I do mean a little work you can have a successful marriage.

We should just dump the jerks who say that. They'll never change and we deserve better. Once a dumper, always a dumper.


Sarcasm intended.

My only guess is that these people are either really jaded or they never actually had a relationship. You come on here looking for thoughtful suggestions and you get that useless crap.

Do they suggest you junk your car if it starts acting up? How much more valuable and important is your relationship to your spouse than a car? One can only hope that they're not registered voters. Although that would explain a lot.

hi how are you look i feel that everybody deserves a second chance, specially if your married there is always ups and downs in marriage, even as you date the important thing here is communication, i think we all have to love and respect each other. we need to discuss our differences no matter how crucial they may seem.there is always a solution we just need to be patient and understanding, and start thinking of others instead of thinking always about our selves, if we put our emotions aside for one second, and stop complaining. We will realize that is much more easy to understand the other person who is giving us such a hard time. something to think about, bye

I agree with you, people always answer with "divorce him/her". I hope most people don't take this site seriously, if they do, they're marriage will be in trouble.

I think we're all smart enough to know that those 'dump them' answers are from kids or uninterested people and no one takes their answer seriously.

We have inevitably become a product of our own society. Once again blame this on TV and all the soap operas that show that divorce is a very quick and cheap way out of a marriage and sooner or later, people who watch these soaps begin to believe what they see. So now that watching soaps has made everyone an expert in relationships, the easy answer has become 'dump them". We have now become a very well TV educated society where TV provides all the answers. Very rarely will you ever see "work on your relationship" given on any serial or soap opera. This is exactly why divorces were so rare before the onset of TV. We reap what we sow.

"Dump them" is a short, quick reply for points. Sometimes, however, you can work on it and the marriage still doesn't work. That is not to say, however, that one shouldn't try. As a person who has been through the ups and downs of marriage (for 18 years) and now going through my 2ND separation (still on my first spouse), divorce is, and will always be, a last resort.