18 & Marriage falling apart? help xx?

fighting isn't ideal foreplay.. which doesn't make for a good sex life. Stop fighting or just take time apart to clear your head.. which u have every right to do. if you are not allowed to have time apart, Ditch him. you got married way too young.

What do you expect?

Children having children is a recipe for disaster. You are both immature and unprepared for marriage. People your age are having fun at college and partying and you are living paycheck to paycheck changing diapers.

Teenage marriages are a mistake.

Good luck

You guys should take some time apart and think!

The biggest problem is that anyone at age 18 does not have the life experience needed to be able to work a marriage. It is not a fault, it would be like asking a baby to ride a bike. If you two are willing to go to counseling you can have someone else help you to facilitate that personal growth, otherwise you both still need some rules to live by within your marriage and time to practice them, makes mistakes, make changes and just live. Good luck.

perfect recipe for disaster. u all are young and now u have to learn from your mistakes.

I don't mean to tell you what's right for you, but I'm thinking you got married too early. At 18, humans just don't have the growth and experience to comprehend the meaning of the promises that marriage entails.

Be willing to accept that getting married may not have been the best idea. Try marriage counseling or asking advice from married family members, but be prepared for the possibility that the two of you are just too young and that it may not work out.

First, ask yourself, when did your relationship get worse? What happened?
After you figure out what happened to make your relationship get bad, then you need to start doing what you two used to do when you first met and fell in love. I work with many clients and the first thing they have to do is analyze the problem. Unfortunately, you didn't mention why you fight or what type of arguments you two have, so I can't give you specific info, but in general, analyze the problem, think back to what you two used to do, and whenever you two fight, change your thought about what happen es. Understand that each one has different opinions, so if you fight because of that, then by knowing that it is OK for each one of you to have his own opinions. Let me know if you need some more help

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I'm really sorry. To most people, you got married too young. That doesn't mean you can't fix this though. Tell him how you feel, how you hate that you guys are fighting. When he tries to start a fight, calmly tell him, yelling doesn't help anything. Tell him you want to make things better for his and your daughter. You may not be able to help with the hugs and kisses, but try to accept them. If this isn't working, consider going to counseling. Try not to leave him as much, when he gets upset calm him down and give him a hug. Smile at him when your not fighting, just picture the younger person you fell in love with if you aren't happy with what you see. I hope this works out for you and him!

Hanny y'all were young and dim so either learn how to get along or for the baby's to be happy y'all need to go other ways it is not fair to bring kids into this kind of life that is what is wrong with this world baby's having baby's go to school grow up Little bit you can do it get it together for your child only you can it is a mean ugly world out here as you now know men suck not saying its all his fault but dam you are young you can do this Pl dint have anymore any time soon

Sit him down and talk to him when you both can be calm. Tell him everything you said here. Maybe you just need a break from each other. Maybe you need to go out a be a couple for a night and leave the baby with your parents. Ask him what he thinks the problem is.

It's tough when you make the decision to be a wife and mother, before you've even gotten to know yourself as an adult...and he the same (if he's close to your age)...makes for a lot of extra challenges as you two grow into the adults you will be, but are trying to be a couple at the same time who has no idea if you'll still be compatible when you've gained that bulk of adult maturity and more life experience...

Couples counseling may help as there's a lot going on in your life both within yourselves and your relationship...your example is why so many people recommend waiting until mid 20s or later to consider marriage...it's tough for people barely out of childhood to do it and make it work for long...

Best wishes...

Did you seriously expect anything else at your age?

I can't see why you are married at only 18, but that's neither here nor there. Get a counselor right away. A pastor, etc.

Want to know the truth?
You hear about this all the time right? So what's the deal?
The deal is that you and he are from different planets ! (Men are from Mars - Women are from Venus by Gray) Your entire core from the time you were a little girl was playing house and playing will dolls. Why ? Because your ingrained nature is to be the care-giver, the nurturer, the real lover in this relationship. What you want more than anything is be in a loving, RELATIONSHIP ! Everything you do is centered around developing this relationship. Talking, holding hands, doing the dishes together, watching TV with your legs crossed over each other.........it's ALL about relationship !
But he's not from Venus! He's from this other planet where the only source for intimacy is SEX ! Sound infantile? Sound juvenile and stupid? Yep - well that what you get when you go shopping on Mars !

He was not raised to be a lover. He was raised to be the Warrior, the Defender and the Provider. As long as he can do those things, he feels complete in his gender identity. This is what drew you to him in the first place. He would be the knight in shining armor and come to rescue you from the dragons of this world. Sound like a fairy tale? It's not! It's exactly what brought you two together in the first place.

Now captured, you only want to expand this little enterprise into a growing concern of intimacy and cuddling and tears and emotion. STOP ! All he wants is more SEX !
In sex, you are just starting up the relationship. In sex, he's all done with the relationship.
As a woman, you want peace and tranquility. You want to be held and nurtured and embraced as worthy to be loved. STOP! All he wants is SEX !
This is about the only place that an immature little boy can find his path to intimacy. It takes guys about 30 years to come to understand what women really want in this life. You've got about 10 more years to wait until he comes to even comprehend WHO you even are.
Fight all you want. You will fight for what you want and he can't provide. And he will fight for what he wants and you do not want to provide. Keep on fighting. You will both lose out in the battle and move on to find other lovers that don't have a clue either.

Regardless of how or why you are married at such a young age the simple fact of the matter is that you are. So, what would I advise any other couple whose marriage was in turmoil? I think it would behoove you to take the baby to G-mom house for the weekend. Have her babysit. Then go home to your husband and have a very frank/candid discussion about wants/needs/expectations/goals about life as an individual and as a couple. Learn to fight fair. NEVER call each other names.

I suggest reading and implementing anything you can from the book "The Five Love Languages". (link) No, it isn't the end all be all of self-help books but it at the very least could give you and your husband common talking ground. (vocabulary)

Of course your marriage is falling apart. You got married when you were still a child, and the only reason you got married in the first place was because there was a baby on the way. Marriages like yours never last because they were not entered into for the right reasons and by people mature enough to know what they were doing. Get divorced, try to stay on civilized terms for the sake of your child, and focus on building a better future for yourself and your child.