Marriage AdviceMarriage vows are powerful words that at times are hard to maintain. Many fear that marriage isn't the same commitment that it once was. Leave your fears at home and take a dose of marriage advice to help you maintain a committed relationship. Bring any questions or concerns regarding your death do you part.
My wife and I are newlyweds (Dec. 31 2009) and are looking for the best real advice you can give us (especially if its unconventional). Obviously the longer you have been married the better. However, any advice is good! Please also state your age and how long you have been married.
If you're wrong, just apologize. If she's wrong, don't wait around for an apology.
When you go to the store without her, always bring her back something. (like her favorite candy bar or something.)
Little gestures mean more than big ones.
Never make her feel stupid.
Never make her feel disliked or unloved.
Never take it personally when she makes you feel stupid or disliked or unloved.
Let her talk. The more she talks, the less you have to. Never make her feel bad or wrong for talking to you.
If you want to be taken care of (house, food, clean laundry, etc), you need to take care of her needs too especially financial. If she doesn't feel taken care of, she won't take care of you. Security is important to women.
Remember that men and women are very different. Don't put your gender role on her, and she won't put her gender role on you. If gender roles are blurred, you'll both be less attractive to each other and will fight due to the confusion from blurring gender roles.
These tips yield very good results when put in practice.
Real advice, not PC advice. Happily married. A happy woman = a happy man and a happy marriage
My advice is that you dint listen to any advice.
couples aren't all the same, and what is good for me, may be is not for you.
keep being a good husband/wife,be friends, talk, and respect each others.
That's all
Go to Bed Angry
It's better to go to bed angry than stay up all night fighting ? you'll need your rest in order to win the fight tomorrow.
Always Speak Directly to Your Spouse
Don?t try to send your spouse a message by having fake conversations with your kids or pets and pretending he or she isn't in the room (i.e. We wouldn't have been late if Mummy hadn't taken so long getting ready, etc.).
Never Tell Your Spouse That Looks Don't Matter
While it's a nice thought, saying that looks don't matter implies that you would marry any old hag. You want your spouse to feel attractive and desirable. You have high standards and he or she is worthy of them.
Never Have Breakfast Together
Few people are at their best in the morning. Stay out of each others way and avoid confrontation in the morning by never eating breakfast together.
Always Wear Your Wedding Ring
Spouses who take them off will never win another argument again. Ever.
Funny Marriage Advice For Husbands
[edit]Don't Expect Dinner to be Made
DO NOT come home and ask your wife ?What?s for dinner?? Implying that she's responsible for dinner will surely anger her. This isn't the 1950s. Both sexes are capable of preparing a meal.
Don't Live in the Past
Don?t compliment your wife for how she looks in outfits she used to wear that no longer fit. Always tell her she looks great in the moment.
Don't Laugh When Your Kids Call Your Wife Fat
Kids say the dandiest things and sometimes it's hard not to laugh. However, laughter will only encourage them to do it again, and chances are your wife won't find it as funny as the rest of you do.
The Thought Doesn't Count
Don't tell your wife about the gift you almost got her. Although it's nice to know that your spouse was thinking of you, it's nicer to know that he thought of you and brought you a present.
Dads Are Not Babysitters
If you're spending time with the kids while your wife is out, do not refer to it as babysitting ? not unless you want to enrage your wife. Just because she gave birth to them, it doesn't mean that she claims sole responsibility of their care.
Women Lie
When your wife says, "I won't be mad" she's lying. When she says, "You don't have to ask permission to go out with your friends" she's lying. When she says, "Bald men are sexy" she's lying. When she says, "I want you to be honest with me ? do I look fat in this?" she's lying.
Funny Marriage Advice For Wives
[edit]Correct His Driving
How will your husband know he's going too fast unless you continuously slam the imaginary brakes on the passenger side of the car?
If You Want Something, Feed Him
When men are hungry, they get cranky and irritable. A hungry husband is less likely to agree to any requests or demands. If you need to discuss something serious, or if you want him to do something for you, check his appetite first.
Help Him Improve Himself
If your husband is a hunter or fisher and brings home some sort of trophy, say, "I thought it would be bigger." It will encourage him to try harder next time.
Smile and Nod
When your husband needs to bare his soul, let him. Even if you have absolutely no interest in what he's saying, at least pretend to listen. After all, women often try to convince men to be more communicative. So let him complain. Allow your eyes to glaze over and daydream about something else. It's a safe bet he'll never notice.
Play the Damsel in Distress to Get What You Want
When you need an unpleasant job done around the house don't ask your husband to do it. Instead, attempt the job yourself, do it badly and let him show you the "right" way to do it. He gets to be the hero, and you get to go relax.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
If you insist on putting your foot down about everything, you're bound to get exhausted. Instead, let the small stuff slide and save the big fights for important stuff, such as finances, children and picking the movie.
When a woman says Yes or No they usually mean the opposite.
Ex: Husband: Do you need any help with the housework honey?
Wife: No it's OK
Husband: Ok then I'm off to play golf with my friends and won't be back till late afternoon.
Wife, mumbling: jerk!
Husband: Hey honey come here and look what I got...the new phone! and it was a bargain only 800$ isn't it nice?
Wife: Yes wonderful sweetie congratulations (but what she is really thinking is 800$ ON A STUPID PHONE WHILE WE NEED TO PAY THE MORTGAGE!!!)
With my respect to you and your questions, but why did you get married from the first place if you are looking for marriage advices after 4 months!
I liked most of the answers but what is really matter that all actions and behaviors should be flowing out of your deep inside. It is you who know your life partner very well and what you should do to sustain your marriage life.
Wishing you best of luck and more and more to come =)
OK I'm not married but i kind of have my own view on marriage. I'm 22. You have to feed the love you guys have, long for each other all the time and believe that this is a truly blessed experience in your life. Be transparent with each other, say things as they are...Of course you define the relationship. Don't let it go off the limits, let it have standards..Don;t let the routine get on to you..
Women, don't expect your husband to change after marriage.
Men, Don't expect your wife to not change.
Sometimes your wife will just want you to listen. When a woman has a problem a lot of the times she dozen?t want you to fix it she just wants you to listen to her talk about it. So when your wife has a problem just listen to her and only comment when she is all done.
Ibn Tumart said, Don't go to bed angry at each other.
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