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My fiance and I are trying to plan out our wedding.
A lot of people have told us to not spend a ton on our wedding, but others say You only get married once so why not. We don't need something huge but we want it to be a beautiful and memorable day.
I was wondering how much some of you have spent on your wedding?
Do you regret it?
Any suggestions?
I just got married and we spend about 3500 maybe less but I wouldn't take it back I loved it the wedding seemed to get over to fast tho I miss wearing my wedding dress and you only get married once so make sure you have everything you need and enough stuff that you will be happy with it.
We spent a bit less than what's typical in our area (although I'm sure other parts of the country would be shocked).
We did not regret it, because we spent only what we had in savings. And we did not spend our entire savings. And (not that anyone should bank on this - we certainly did not), with the money we got from gifts plus some money our parents gave us for the vendors, we got about 75% of the money we spent back at the end. So we only "lost" a few thousand dollars on the wedding.
We had a nice day with things we wanted, and we skipped the things we did not want. Our guests were comfortable and happy and had enough to eat and drink. We hired professional, competent vendors and classy venues. Yes, we were happy with what we spent, and we were even happier that the entire wedding was paid in full by the time it actually happened ... we had no debt to settle after we actually got married.
People won't know how much you spent, and they won't miss what's not there (aside from food and chairs).
We ended up spending about $8000 more on our wedding and honeymoon than we thought we would. Was the next 3 months of paying off the credit card a tad painful? Yes. Do I regret a single nickel? Nope! In fact, if I could do it over I would have added a few things.
Thing is, the amount of money we spent on our wedding/honeymoon (about $18K total) was manageable for us. A $50,000 affair would have been unreasonable. You have to adjust your plans to what you can afford. If you intend to spend $10K but it gets pushed up to $12K, chances are with some belt-cinching over the next couples of months you can cope with it, so it's not a big deal. The problems arise when a couple starts off with $X amount, then they get so excited by all the stuff the wedding industry will push at you that they lose all good sense and end up spending more than they can realistically pay off in a short amount of time.
I can't say because I'm not married yet!
Lol.
I'm getting married in 2 months and I'm rushing with this and that.
My boyfriend and I decided that we wouldn't spend too much on the Gothic wedding that we will have.
My dress is 259 Euros. Which is 4--something dollars. It's a black spider web dress that will come from France; I need too be ordering that now because it takes 30-55 days for delivery; Unless I rush order and have the dress in 2 weeks. That's not including his tuxedo, the music, food, and etc. We also decided that we would have a indoor wedding. We're on a budget and we're not trying too live like the Jones, but the De'Armonds.
I'm getting married in summer and I don't want to spend a lot on mine either, but here's the break down for you.
My dress is 3,000$
I need 2,000$ to help fly in my fiance's parents.
My family will do my hair & make-up, so I'm saving money on that.
The venue is my rather large church. We're having the wedding in the chapel, then moving to the other building for the reception. Reception food will most likely be catered by my family or by a Japanese restaurant because I love sushi. Guesstimate of food prices 1,500$
The pastor is a friend of mine, so instead of tipping him with money we'll probably buy him and his wife small gifts. Estimate 50-100$
Total: 5,050-5,600$
However, I know brides that have spent 30,000$+ On their weddings. But, with the help of family members. You can have a great wedding for less.
We ended up spending $800 total on our wedding (not including our rings, we invested in ones we truly liked since we wear them every day). However, we made literally everything from the invites, to my dress, to my husbands suit (the most difficult sewing project I have ever done!), to the food and cake. We also kept our guest list to 30 people, and hosted it at a local lake under the Ramada which was free to rent. It was a beautiful day, and I wouldn't change a thing. But it was just that, a day. Initially, we were going to go all out and have a average $10,000 wedding. But when we sat down and thought about how absurd it would be to spend a few thousand dollars on a dress to be worn once or hundreds on flowers that would be thrown out, it just seemed stupid to us. There was nothing UN-special about our wedding because it didn't cost a great deal, in fact, it was very unique and different from the wedding mill weddings you go to time and time again. That day is come and past, and we still have our $10,000, which is growing every week as we save for a down payment on a house. To us, saving our money for a home in the future was more important than throwing a fairy tale wedding. In the end, I still married my husband, and really, that is all that mattered.
I found this website a few years ago, and it's a pretty decent resource. You put in the zip code of where you live, or where you're getting married (US only) and it will tell you what the average amount people who reported to their site spent on their wedding. Is it the most scientific, nope, but I think it's a decent enough barometer. You can decide from there how much to spend. I can tell you this much, whatever you do, do NOT go into debt for your wedding. Yes, it's only one day, and yes it's an important day, but you do not want to start your marriage in debt.
Don't go crazy on your wedding day! It's just one day of your life. Why spend thousands and thousands of dollars that you might not even have to begin with?
I'm getting married in a year! My fiance and I want a DIY wedding. Were both very crafty and we want to make things for the wedding by hand. It will we loads of work but at the same time it's going to be us. I love handmade items!
I know someone who is getting married. Already, she is thinking of having a huge expensive wedding. Her wedding ideas are crazy! She wants an expensive wedding. Kind of like the ones you see on TV. Never once, has this person even planned out her marriage with her fiance. At least that is what I think.
Weddings aren't about things! Some people say they are but too me I don't find that true. No wedding is going to make me happy if cost more than buying a home. I don't care for all the things! What's more important is the fact that our fiance and I are getting married because we love each other. Our love is more important than some table decoration.
So for our wedding we plan on making it as family oriented as possible. It will mean so much to us. I've already starting to make a wedding quilt for our wedding. It's also a school project of mine. The quilt will mean a lot to us. I plan on showing off my work at the wedding. It's my first time making a quilt. I'm loving it!
Don't go crazy on your wedding day! Make it fun at the same time stress free! That's my goal for the wedding! I've been to so many weddings that were beautiful. I can tell you that they probably were super expensive weddings. I don't believe in going broke for one day of your life. How many couples who have such expensive weddings actually last together in the long run? I'm sure some of them go into debt. Wedding shouldn't be such a huge show either. When I see these programs on TV that show people getting married all I see is some huge show. It's not about the things that you have at a wedding! I think people have lost the true meaning of a marriage and a wedding.
Well...it really depends what you want on for your wedding day. You said you don't need something huge, but you want it beautiful and memorable.... that's exactly how my wedding was
Very very small, only 18 guests in total. We had an evening ceremony at a golf/country club. We had the ceremony and reception in one small banquet room. For our ceremony, we were married in front of a wrought iron screen with over 80 candles, it was beautiful. It was so personal, with just our family watching. I still had my maid of hon our and he still had his best man, I had the fancy dress. We had lots of details of a big wedding that really weren't necessary, but we wanted them, and don't regret them at all. After our ceremony, we headed outside to the patio that was just outside our room, and had some pictures taken (and some wine while waiting while the staff set up (and decorated) the reception tables. We did the cake cutting, the first dance....it was amazing. We spent around $1200, the only thing not included in that was my dress, that was a gift from my mom So, we gave our guests an awesome night, a delicious supper, of course lots of "beverages" were available to them if they wanted, it was awesome, and I wouldn't change a thing about it.
My point is....my wedding was just as memorable to me, as a big huge wedding would be to another couple, it all depends on what you want for the day.
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