Christians what advice would you give to another Christian suffering from verbal abuse in their Marriage?
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If you cant get along and he is abusing you to the point where you feel threatened or uncomfortable then it might be an idea to move out till he gets his act together and not in a false way, it must be sincere.
I don't see what you have to complain about. You believe in the bible. The bible excuses that type of behavior by a man. Either stop complaining or dump the silly religion thing, get a backbone and dump the verbal abuser. Walk tall and free from bronze age myths and behaviors.
It's been in my experience that verbal abuse can SOMETIMES lead to physical abuse. You don't say if this is something that has just started or if the spouse has always been this way. If this is new, there's a reason why they're suddenly lashing out at you. You may be taking the place of one they'd really want to take something out on. If you cannot get them to communicate why they're treating you this way, you, alone could go get counseling if they would refuse to do so with you. But, no one deserves to have to suffer this and the spouse needs to know it HAS to change and an ultimatum should be given. And a therapist would be the best one to advise you as to what the ultimatum should be. I will pray for your marriage to heal and hope any Christian that reads this will pray for you also. May God speed help to you and your spouse. God bless.
I was married 16 yrs. to an abuser. It was hell. Put your hand up and say to him "I do not accept what your saying to me any longer". Also "It is not okay for you to talk to me that way". Try this first. If the abuse doesn't stop-leave a few days if possible. Look on the Internet under WNW.Dr. Susan Forward.com Go get her book called "Men who hate women and the women who love them". What your going through is real. He perhaps will escalate in his abuse towards you, but make sure you say No-it's no longer acceptable. Keep saying it over and over until he responds positively. The problem is verbal abuse can turn physical. So plan your escape before that happens. If this has been going on a while seek safety in a women's shelter. Again have your plans thought out. Take important papers and a car if possible. Stay 2-3 months in the shelter. They have resources. Verbal abuse is like getting punched with words but the pain is the same. I will be praying for you. Also look up WNW.Margaret Rinck.com -she's a christian author who wrote "Christian Men Who Hate Women." 30% of the male population are abusive.
Any sort of abuse in a marriage--whether it be verbal, mental, or physical--must be treated by the church with a zero tolerance policy. If this verbal abuse becomes intense and unbearable, then the victim of it needs to at the very least separate from their spouse and make it clear that reconciliation will only occur if they straighten up and repent. If the abuser refuses, then complete separation needs to be considered which would mean divorce. If it is the case that a person can't leave and are being threatened in some way, then they need to consider contacting the authorities.
My understanding of God in the scripture is that He does not expect a person to remain in a marriage where they are made to suffer in a living hell. I do not believe that a Christian needs to worry about committing sin if they leave an abusive spouse. While this particular issue is not directly addressed in Paul's exhortation on marriage found in 1 Corinthians 7, we can make a reasonable decision based on our common sense understanding of the character of Christ and conclude that He would hardly disapprove of a person leaving their abusive spouse. There are many things not explicitly found in scripture that we know God would approve or disapprove of based on our Christian understanding, and this I think is one of them.
Christians what advice would you give to another Christian suffering from verbal abuse in their Marriage?
