Marriage Advice?

aerofrce1 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 02:33 AM

I have been married for 7 years (together for 10) We both came from troubled pasts (abusive parents, rough childhoods) and have had some bad luck in our marriage as well with-job loss(2 full years), money trouble, health troubles etc. We have two children and like most people very busy lives. My question is that it seems we have lost each other...we don't get along like we used to, we fight, I feel bitter towards him and I am sure he feels the same towards me...neither of us really feels like the other respects the other. One day things are good and the next it's like we barely like each other. I love my husband and I want my family to be happy. Can you give me some marriage advice to try and bring the happiness back into our marriage? What do you do in your marriage to get over the rough spots? I feel lost and like I can't make it work. I want so much to be a great wife and mother. I want my house to be a safe haven for my family....any advice would be helpful. Thanks

fadedflowerz · #2 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 05:33 AM

Talk to your husband. see how he feels in all of this. The only way to work it out, is if you both try.

Greta Leigh · #3 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 08:56 AM

COMMUNICATE!Problems don't just go away on their own. If you want your marraige to last, tell him. See if he wants it to last. But really think about it, both of you.If you want it to work, go see a therapist together. If you don't want it to work, try your best to end it amicably. It's possible!Best of luck to you.

sarge927 · #4 (**permalink**) 02-10-2009, 01:08 AM

Sit your husband down and talk to him about the two of you (JUST the two of you -- get someone to take the kids) getting away for a few days. You don't have to go far away or have an exotic vacation, but the goal is to have some time where work, household chores, children, bills, and all that day-to-day crap you have to deal with is not there. The two of you need to work out your differences and"find"each other again, and the best way to do that is by spending all your time together in a setting where you don't have to worry about all the mundane things in life that wear everyone down. Good on you for trying to fix it instead of giving up easily, and I wish you the best of luck.

outdrgrl2003 · #5 (**permalink**) 02-19-2009, 09:15 PM

I would recommend some type of marriage counseling and/or find a good church where the family is comfortable. Maybe seek counseling through the church after you've attended for a while.The older I get, the more I realize that every answer I've ever needed in life came from my Bible.

Tadpoler · #6 (**permalink**) 03-29-2009, 10:25 PM

I would suggest you read the following 2 books:The Surrendered Wife (do not let the title fool you , it is not about being submissive)The Proper Care and Feeding of HusbandsBoth are available in the library.Good Luck!