* When to give up on your marriage! advice please *?

I been married for about 2 years and it's been a struggle to stay married. My husband takes everything to his heart and keep everything in his mind that didn't go well between us. It has been piling up in his mind and now he's gets extremely mad over any little thing. He says very hurtful things that I didn't used to take seriously. I thought he doesn't mean it and he is just mad at the moment. He used to show me he loves me and care so much. But things has been changing and at a point where we don't even talk to each other much. We pretend everything is okay. Recently I sent an concern email and got a response that"we are done""i dont love"and don't know what to do at this time.Other stuff he wrote:"see only dark things in our future.i realized it too late that we are not compatible and can never be.what we want/wanted in life is/was different. our goals are different. so different that even when we tried to change each other , that wasnt enough . finally here we are frustratefrustrated thinking that i did so much for him, i did so much for her but all waste."I don't know what to do; he is still here for me and I am still here for him. Our sex life has been over long time ago. I know for a fact that he is not cheating either. He comes home straight from work and we spend weekends together. He is always around me. He make plans to go to Vegas and even India to visit his family for a month; together. It's hard for me to believe if that's how he really feel and if he did, why is he still with me, why make these future plans. Why do a lot stuff as normal. I think he is confused and I am willing to anything to make our marriage better and last. But he tells me over and over he is serious about what he says and he does not love me any longer. But his words doesn't match with his actions. I am confused, don't know what to do. Sometimes I just want to give up and other times what to keep trying. Gosh it's so hard to be happy with his man but i love him to death!Sincerely,Sad Lil IndianThank you all for your great suggestions. I appreciate your input. I had proposed the idea of going for marriage counseling but he refused to go and says he doesn't need it. I am thinking about going by my self since my work provide free 5-6 sessions. I am very emotional person and damn it I just can't take it when he says these horrible things. I cry and cry my lungs out. He feels bad therefore he doesn't discuss what's going on in his mind. We were both 26 when we got married. We would be normal and all of sudden it would come up to divorce. He is negative persona and very hard on him self. But very caring at the same time. He had some goals in life that he didn't accomplish on time and he feels he's a failure. He is 28 years old with double masters and good paying job, a nice house in the bay area and a great wife but he doesn't realize any. He feels he's a failure because he made the wrong decision to marry a wrong person and other things he couldn't do it on time. I have mentor hI have mentor him over and over that we are very lucky and blessed to have everything we have but he doesn't see the world with my eyes. I am bit moody but easy going, I get over things in minutes. If he gets mad he will stay mad for at least a week and if I am mad; the most I stay mad be an hour. I feel that he takes everything for granted. But it's not easily to convince him for everything. He is always right and the boss. My my oh God help me.I have been trying every thing possible to make things better. He doesn't like my family and that is one of the biggest issue between us. Things happened between him and my family; a long story. Therefore he has decided not to do anything with then. He indirectly wants to cut everything with my family as well but I made a clear that I will not leave my folks for no reason. My family has always been there for me. Someone suggested if I try to romance him; well tried everything. Only thing he is interested in bed is oral sex and wants it every day, without giving anything in return. Sometimes I would say no and he wouldn't talk to me for a week. He said he wants it everyday or doesn;t want it at all. Just recently he decided that he doesn't want it anymore since I said no to him. He said our"sex life is over". Of course I am thinking he can't be serious. Before we were having sex once a week. I tried to romance him few times but he doesn;t even let me touch him. He is too mad or heck miHe is too mad or heck might be serious. He has big ego issues. But I am stupid in love and can't imagine my life without him. We have mad all these plans and can't image it be just over like that.

If he isn't willing to work at this or try, then you gotta sever your ties to him and move on. Your happiness is very important and be thankful that its only been 2 years. Only a fool stays in misery. Think of your self worth, you're better and you deserve better.