CHRISTIANS: I need marriage advice.....?

FabulousInIndy · #1 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 05:52 PM

I asked this question in the Marriage&Divorce section but thought it might help to list it here as well.My husband and I had very similar views toward religion when we met and throughout the several years that we dated. Now that we are a few years into our marriage we have reached a difficult point where I have grown closer to God and am trying to strengthen my faith and my husband has grown farther from God and less interested in religion. He is no longer interested in even going to church and is basically only agreeing to go because I want him to. We were both raised Protestant Christians and we do not believe in divorce. I know that I can't force him to think as I do, but I feel that in many ways being unable to express my beliefs without making him uncomfortable is hurting our marriage. For example....suggesting that my husband and I read a daily devotional together makes him feel uncomfortable because he now considers himself more spiritual than religious. I can count on one hand the number of times that he has led a prayer recently and those were generally at my request. Has anyone been through this? It's really been weighing down on us and to be honest I worry that I am unable to fulfill what God wants of me because I am having such a difficult time in keeping a God-centered marriage. I love my husband, but I can't help but feel that he's not the same man I married. I need advice from someone who has been there......please no rude comments, I'm looking for support. Thank you for your input...."the light exposes..."i apologize if this seemed like a rant against my husband....i most certainly do pray for him and i was not attempting to make him seem like a bad person or to disrespect him, i was just trying to paint as accurate a picture as possible so as to get good advice. i'm sure you understand.

Misses M · #2 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 07:42 PM

God centered marriage is unhealthy because it's union of 3.Marriage should be union of 2.

Roccdrummer · #3 (**permalink**) 12-12-2008, 05:54 AM

The Love between you and your husband is far more important than differences of opinion.

GATHEIST · #4 (**permalink**) 12-20-2008, 11:42 AM

Frankly, it sounds like you're using god and religion as a means of moving away from your husband.Come back to the real world, sister. Stop two-timing your husband with your imaginary friend.

Barabas · #5 (**permalink**) 12-20-2008, 04:27 PM

I'll try not to be rude but. I am an atheist and my wife christian it works because she and I both put our family and each other first. If you intend to put a god ahead of your family than you really have no place wasting his time in a marriage. If you really love the man how can you throw him away? are his beliefs worth less than yours? At any rate good luck to you what ever you do, I hope the two of you work it out together.

Scottish Dachsy · #6 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 06:43 PM

It sounds to me that your husband may be going through a period of some difficulty and may also have some questions about his own beliefs. He needs to work through these things himself. I suggest that you have your devotions yourself for the time being and not try to involve him. You can let him know that he is welcome to join you if he wishes so he knows he has an open invitation. However, use the time to pray for your husband and his spiritual wellbeing. A wife can do this and it is better for you if you can do so alone in your prayer closet with God. The Holy Spirit can lead you into praying for him what he needs.

CJunk · #7 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 01:14 AM

Do your husband a favour and get a divorce. Don't ruin his life also.

Gay Mormon · #8 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 11:46 AM

It is obvious that your not"equally yolked". You resent your husbands"lack of faith"and he resents your"holier than thou"attitude. But, the truth is that you are trying to force him into being who you think he should be instead of supporting him. You are at fault, not him. If I was him and you nagged at me all the time I would leave you and not grant you a divorce.

tuberoot · #9 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 07:16 AM

Grow in the Lord and let your husband be. If God wants to, He will change your husband. You are better off because whatever is bothering your husband will pass, the Lord willing. It isn't making things better by continually pressing him.Let him be. When the time comes, your husband should come around.

Morganie4 · #10 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 12:56 PM

Pray and be the best wife you can be! Be gentle and do not criticize, love him self-sacrificially. Love him so beautifully that he will see the love of Christ through you and you can lead him to the Lord through your love.Don't criticize him, don't hate or disrespect him, but give him a love so wonderful he won't be able to contain his joy

Reflect the love and glory of Christ to him every day

Do it in God's strength because Jesus will be with you in this!

kidz0211 · #11 (**permalink**) 01-08-2009, 03:27 PM

Put this case in your daily prayer.I believe God listen to all prayer and when its time God will answer yours prayer and lead your family to Him.Keep praying force someone to believe in Him means nothing at all.Please read Revelation 8:3-5 and pray about it to let yourself understand what that mean.