Relationship Advice -- When to break it off.?

Trixie · #1 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 08:13 PM

How do you know when it is time to break off a relationship? I have been with my guy fro 10 months now. Everything was wonderful in the beginning. Flowers, lots of attention, lots of fun, and lots of sex. Now it seems like he doesn't have much time for me, the sex has slimmed down and it seems like we just can't get things right.I was married before and my husband cheated on me and we divorced. So I am in this new relationship with some serious baggage. But so is he, because he also was married and divorced for similiar reasons. I can't tell if it is me that expects too much and just can't be happy, or if our relationship is deteriorating, or if we are both just too scared to fully give ourselves in this relationship.When we met, something just clicked with us. Neither one of us was looking for a relationship and we ended up falling in love. Now I am wondering if we just wanted a warm body to fill that empty space, or if this is worth making work. Any advice?

Your_Star · #2 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 06:10 AM

If you are still madly in love with him or just in love, then you should talk to him and find out where he is in the relationship. If you aren't on the same page, it's important to talk about it. Maybe you two need some space? Maybe some time alone is the best for you two..

Sassy H · #3 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 06:14 AM

Maybe he has things on his mind and too scared to come to you with it? Or it could be just you found each other and the comfort was there and he realised that he is better now, and is having the time of his life, who knows ask him why he has bulled away from you, only he can answer that for you!

sunnybozo2000 · #4 (**permalink**) 12-17-2008, 07:05 AM

Are you still in love? Can you imagine living life without him? I think those are the most important questions to ask yourself before anything else. It's normal for a relationship to die down a little after the first 6-7 months, but to a certain extent. If you two don't spend anytime together at all, then there may be something going on. You should have a heart to heart talk to discuss both of your feelings. See where he's coming from. He may not realize that you feel a little neglected and it just needs to be brought to your attention. After the talk, I would wait to see how you feel and if things need to change. Good Luck!