im new and in a relationship any advice?

dude were my gatt · #1 (**permalink**) 12-09-2008, 10:57 AM

im new and in a relationship with my girlfriend.. im 22 and she is 20. so far we been official for 3 weeks. the first time we went out. these are the signals.. she mention she should cook for me sometimes.. I look handsome with my hair short..do things my mom would do such as place a spoon on my bowl when im eating pho with chop sticks, kiss me at the end of the day I got really excite and slipped out the 3 words"I love you"then i guess she kinda slip out and said I love you too then smiled and said i mean i like you. after that the next day she went to vegas with her friends and never called me.. since im new what advice would you give me to keep this relationship stable?

Elusive · #2 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 01:23 PM

Well you haven't told us how long ago she went to Vegas, is she back yet?She may just be out for some fun, which is okay, but may not be for you!Talk to her when you get the chance, find out some things and take it from there, thats all i can suggest.

Viero · #3 (**permalink**) 12-11-2008, 12:15 PM

Saying"I love you"so soon could be an issue. What you're feeling is infatuation, not love.To keep the relationship stable, one of you needs to keep their head out of the clouds and realize that relationships take hard work to maintain. Words don't build upon a relationships foundation, actions and decisions do, mostly unselfish ones that don't necessarily benefit yourself..

B K · #4 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 03:12 PM

dude you dont say i love you that early. you freaked her out.dont call her until she gets back, and then speak to her about how you sometimes overreact and say things too soon or something like that.

jenn b · #5 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 04:16 AM

Okay #1 no-no don't every say the 3 special words only after 3 weeks. I know it's hard not to at times, but just like males, some female are afraid of comitment. Some times both genders fear that by saying the 3 words means tied down, comitment, no more fun time with the guys, no more mall shopping for the girls. It sucks I know. Sometimes you feel so warm and fuzzy inside and you fear if you don't say it then you'll either explode or you may never get a chance to say it. Try dancing around it by saying things like, I like you a lot, I am developing strong feelings for you, or simple, It's been nice hanging out with you, I would like to spend more time with you. Try those first before you jump to saying'I Love You'