Relationship Advice...Please Help!?

BOBBIE · #1 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 06:38 AM

Can anyone out there offer me any advice on how to convince the man I am having a long distance relationship with that I am not dating anyone else? I have told him and tried to make him feel secure with the fact that we have been honest with one another to this point and if I was dating someone else or had the urge that I would let him know. I am falling for him and want him to know that he is the only man for me, I am seriously thinking of quiting my job and moving to where he is to be with him. I only have eyes for him and I don't know how to make him understand that. If you can offer any advice please dish it out...thanks in advance.

tahitianpearle · #2 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 06:59 AM

If he doesn't trust what you're telling him there is nothing you can"do"to convince him. And giving up your life to run after someone who doesn't trust you is not a good idea.

inquisitive · #3 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 11:03 AM

Such questions and insecurities from him can only mean one of two things. One-he himself is being unfaithful or two he is insecure about himself. Think about this moving business, are you sure this is someone you want to sacrifice such major things for? Good luck.

your_uncle_dodge · #4 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 08:54 PM

Let him know you're thinking about quitting your job. But DON'T QUIT IT. Instead, tell him he's jealous for no reason and it needs to stop. If it doesn't, you have a real dilemma.

ciao_gina · #5 (**permalink**) 01-11-2009, 06:36 PM

You can not make anyone feel anything. Seriously, if this guy is so insecure and jealous do you really think that uprooting your life will change that? He will only wonder where you are 24/7 when you are not with him. Plus you will resent him when you make a huge change and things are not good in the relationship because he doesn't trust you.

lostinyonkers · #6 (**permalink**) 02-14-2009, 03:15 AM

if he keeps thinking that your seeing someone else then he's insecure about himself because at some point he must have been lied to and gotten hurt. Also you have to consider the fact that 9 out of 10 men that think the girl is cheating it's because he himslef is doing it or has done it so he has guilty feelings.