Relationship advice. (some mature themes so if you are a kid look out.)?

cosmiccantinacowboy · #1 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 10:17 AM

I am in a nice relationship with a girl and have been for about a year. Things are starting to get a little stale sex wise, we both still love each other and are turned on by each other, but things are just a little boring. I thoght about trying some role playing but am worried about bringing it up to her. She is really straight laced and vanilla. The thing is a few nights ago she surprised me by being aggressive and initiating sex. That was what sparked the role play idea. So...any of you out there have any idea how I could approach her with this..and what to do? She lives with her parents so...it coudl be hard to do it when I visit her. I live alone so...it would be easier then if she is up for it..I just don't want to seem like I am pushing her or look like a pervert..so...I'm opening to you answers people and looking foolish. Any ideas..advice......joke...I promise not to go all"Michael Richards"on a few Heckelrs. so...yeah..help me out for ten points. Thanks.

dmckinner · #2 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 03:02 PM

I think the best thing you can do is just straight out, talk with her about it. If she is willing to make things different then you should bring up the role playing and stuff. However she may be totally opposed and think your a pig. You need to talk to her and see where she stands on the whole sex thing!!!

buzz_dawson44 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-27-2008, 10:24 AM

It is always tricky because it is nerve wracking tyring to test the limits without pushing her away.You might just go for the direct approach, but without any pressure.You can say you heard someone talking about it or read an article about it on the internet.See what she thinks of it before you ask her to get into it.

collegechick · #4 (**permalink**) 01-13-2009, 11:20 AM

i would start up a conversation, mention sex, start maybe asking questions, to see if she is open for ideas, if that doesnt work, bring up her being aggressive tell her u liked it, then mention role playing, if she gets a disturbed look on her face, laugh, and play it off!! good luck to ya!!!

sandostrich · #5 (**permalink**) 02-19-2009, 09:30 AM

Be playful. Add a blindfold and go from there. If you start out small and ask her if she's comfortable as you go, you won't go wrong. Ask her what her biggest fantasy is and make it happen, then share yours and see if she'll play. If you're in a trusting relationship, it should be pretty easy to get over embarassment and shyness to talk about these things with each other.