I need some relationship advice!! Can you help me?
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I need some relationship advice!! Can you help me?
About 6 months ago I was diagnosed as having depression (at least that is what I think I have). My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. Lately, for the past 6 months, I have been very obsessed with our relationship. I am always feeling like I have to talk to him or see him. I get paranoid when he speaks to a lady or just glances and a girl. I know that he would never cheat. He is not like that at all. It would hurt him too much to hurt me. I need help on what I can do to help myself on not being so obsessed with our relationship. He doesn't chat with women, doesn't talk to them (on the phone), and he doesn't hang out with them. I am the only girl he talk to and hangs out with. The other women that he talks to is at work. Could there be something else wrong with me or am I just being too paranoid about our relationship. he has never hurt me since we have been together. Please help me and give me some good advice on how to get better. Thank you!!!I guess I get more obsessed because I am scared of losing him. We have been dating for more than a year and I love him with all my heart. (I am not too young to have a boyfriend) I am 19 and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life..I would do anything for him. I am currently on medication..I have been on meds for about 5 months...It doesn't seem to work perfectly but I do admit, I do need some counsling..I can't afford it right now but I hope that I can get it soon...We both have our problems and because of me being so paranoid, it has pushed us a little farther away but he wants me to get better. He says that he will always be here for me and that he loves me no matter what. He just wants to see me get through this and I want to as well..I don't doubt his commitment to me..I know how much he loves and cares for me. I don't pray but maybe I should start. Maybe god can help me. I need all the help I can get.I really don't have many friends that I hang out with..Well I really don't have any at all..He is my only and best friend. I do work Monday thru Friday and sometimes at work, I start feeling like I have to talk to him. Sometimes I also get jealous when he jerks off..I get scared that he prefers that instead of me. Is there something seriously wrong with me. Sometimes I feel like I only want him for me and no one else..I guess I am way to obsessed..Does anyone else have any suggestions? Please help me!!!It is very hard for him to deal with this but he has told me that he is going to stick by me until I get better. He says he loves me too much to leave me. He tells me that I am the one he wants to be with but my obsession can't continue. I just don't want to lose him. I am trying to see a counsler but I can't afford it. I am also filling out paper work for a phyciatrist so I can get the correct medication to get better. If you have any advice, please let me know! I love him!So I don't have anything to worry about if he jerks off every now and then? I just don't want to lose him to something stupid like that..I thank everyone who is giving me advice and I hope that it will work. I hope that I can get better soon before the fire dies. I will try to take everyones advice.
You need to calm down and relax! I am sorry you are so scared! You should try to just enjoy your life! You won't keep a person by controlling them! You have to let you and let life play out the way GOD intends for it to happen! At any rate ~~PLEASE start living!! STOP the worry! PLEASE!? I will pray for YOU! bye
you are depressed. so is everyone.i drink and use cocain with weed. i feel better then.get a girl to come over and all 3 of you have sex with each other while high and drunk.
What you need to do is back off a bit. It may be hard, but since you have already said that he is the one for you, there is no reason why you should smother him. If you smother a fire, it goes out.just keep taking your meds, if they dont seem like they are working you really need to go back to the dr and get them adjusted. Get a journal and write down your feelings.Get a hobby OUTSIDE of your bf. maybe go to your local church or hospital and see can you volunteer. The thing is, no one likes to feel like they are being sucked the life out of by their partner. everyone needs space, even when you are married.It will take time to get used to but in the long run, it will be worth it.If that wont work for you i suggest that you take time away from the relationship to get yourself better. You cant be 100% to another person if you cant give that to yourself.
the clingyer and possesive u get the further u will push him away.. no one wants there every move to be watched.. if u dont have trust u have nothing eventually he's gonna go find someone who trusts him completly and gives him his freedom.. he always comes home to u so hes urs.. sounds like u need to start something of ur own in ur life like gardening, something to occupy u and take ur mind off ur obsessing of him.. once u smother the fire it may not restart and then ull b left alone and really depressed
I need some relationship advice!! Can you help me?
